Woman Says ‘Toxic’ Future Mother-in-Law ‘Needs’ to Talk ‘Every Single Day,’ Expects to Be Included in Big Life Decisions

A woman says her future mother-in-law is an “unaware toxic boy mom” who insists on talking to her fiancé “every single day.” Now, the woman says her fiancé is even considering whether the couple should go home for Christmas because his mom’s behavior is becoming more intense.

In a Reddit post, the woman writes that she used to think her fiancé’s mom was “a sweet woman,” but after the couple moved to another country together, “signs are showing.”

She explains, “It’s a combination of a typical emotionally immature boy mom, with devouring mom syndrome and empty nest syndrome. And of course, her husband (fiancé’s dad) is emotionally distant.”

She adds that her future mother-in-law recently decided she “needs to talk” to her fiancé “every single day (calls or texts) and wants to know literally every detail about his life.”

Her future in-laws recently visited for a week, but the poster says her fiancé’s mom “whined” about him being distant the whole time because he is “not wrapped around her finger anymore.”

“After the trip she straight-up sulked because he didn’t make some huge gesture like buying her gifts or taking her to a fancy restaurant,” she adds.

Now that her fiancé is cutting back on constant calls and texts to focus on their engagement and future, his mom is accusing him of “abandoning” them and “only caring about himself.”

“She’s also upset that he ‘doesn’t depend on them anymore’ for advice or opinions on his life decisions. God forbid he act like an adult,” the Redditor adds.

She says, “It’s gotten to the point where my fiancé is debating whether we should even go ‘home’ for Christmas. I know it’s an important holiday. But honestly, it doesn’t feel like a healthy environment for either of us right now.”

Others on Reddit offered advice in the comments. One wrote, “[Your] partner needs to tell his parents what the problem is; otherwise, nothing can be done to fix it. It’s possible that she’s not even aware of how unhinged she’s becoming. Obviously crazy people don’t know that they’re crazy.”

Another added, “It’s his job to be the go-between with his family, and it’s your job to be the go-between with your family. If he’s not sure he wants to go see his family for Christmas, follow his lead. It sounds like he is aware of his spine, and is in the process of shining it up.”