A woman was hitting it off with a man she met online, but she realized “mid-conversation” that he was dating one of her friends.
The poster explained on Reddit that she was recently swiping through a dating app when a profile caught her attention.
She said the man was “cute,” had a “funny bio,” and “seemed familiar,” but she “couldn’t place him right away.”
“We match, he messages almost immediately, and we start chatting,” she recalls.
About 10 minutes into their conversation, the man mentioned his favorite coffee shop — which just so happened to be a place the poster often goes to with one of her friends.
“Then it clicks. He’s her boyfriend,” she writes. “I’ve literally been at double dates with this man.”
When she confronted him and asked if he was still dating her friend, she was shocked by his response.
“He says, ‘Oh, haha, yeah… but this is just for fun, don’t tell her,'” she recalls. “Like he was asking me to keep his little ‘oops’ secret.”
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The poster says she “unmatched so fast my phone nearly caught fire.”
Still, now she is “torn” about whether she should tell her friend and “potentially blow up their relationship” or keep his secret to spare herself heartbreak.
Nearly everyone in the comments urged the poster to tell her friend and, if possible, save screenshots of her conversation with the boyfriend as “proof.”
“You’re not the one blowing up a relationship by being honest. He did that by stepping outside of their relationship,” one user wrote.
“This isn’t even a question. You tell her. You’re not the only person he’s chatting with,” another added. “You tell your friend. Otherwise when she inevitably does find out and finds out you knew, you will never be friends ever again.”
