A woman says her husband has “become unrecognizable” since their wedding, and she’s unsure how to handle the situation.
On Reddit, she explains that she and her husband, both 27, “got married this past year.” Since then, she feels he “has become almost a different person.”
She shares a particularly troubling incident from their honeymoon: “While on our honeymoon he blatantly flirted with a waitress in front of me,” she writes. “Never before had he crossed a boundary like that, let alone on our honeymoon.”
The woman, clearly shocked, says she was “caught off guard” and initially “started second-guessing” herself — though her intuition proved accurate.
“I didn’t say anything at first, telling myself I was being dramatic and overprotective. But when she told us we ‘just had to come back to see her the next day’ before we left for the next stop on our trip, and he made it a point to go—not only to stop in and have a drink but to see her specifically—I knew he was flirting,” she writes.
She waited a couple of days before confronting him. When she did, he was “flustered” but ultimately “admitted to it.”
“I was shocked. I decided not to be mad but to keep it in the back of my mind, thinking maybe it was a one-off thing,” she recalls.
However, the behavior continued. A few months later, while out at a bar, he began “flirting with another waitress RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME!”
“This time I called him out on it. He denied it, saying he was just asking about her pants, and then followed it up by insulting me!” she continues. “I spent the rest of the night crying in the bathroom.”
On top of his flirtatious behavior, she notes that “things at home have been off,” and she feels like she “does all the work and he only pitches in when I ask him to.”
He has also been making “off-hand comments” about her body and diet, even though he knows this is a sensitive topic for her.
“A week ago we were celebrating my mom’s birthday at my parents’ house. I got up to get a snack when he very loudly asked, ‘are you really getting a snack?'” she recalls. “My mom scolded him and told him I was allowed to eat whenever and whatever I pleased. I got my snack, but not without feeling judged.”
Despite being reprimanded, he “made a very similar comment” a few days later when they were alone.
“He never before has made comments about what I’ve eaten, or when, or how much,” she adds.
The woman admits she is unhappy and feels their relationship has lost its foundation. She says they barely have a friendship left, let alone a romantic bond.
“I do not recognize him anymore,” she concludes, seeking advice on what steps to take next.
