Woman Says ‘Unstable’ Mother-in-Law Drove by Her Home to Try to Catch Her in a Lie

A woman says her mother-in-law is “ruining her life” and she doesn’t know what to do.

In a post on Reddit, the woman explained that she and her husband’s mother had a “decent-ish relationship” until they started planning their wedding. Things got worse after the couple had their now 9-month-old daughter.

“During my baby shower last September, my MIL was actually talking about me (during MY baby shower) to my husband’s cousins,” she wrote. “She told his cousins that I do not like her, but nothing is going to keep her from her grandbaby. His cousins told me this occurred.”

When she confronted her mother-in-law, the MIL acted like the victim, saying, “no one ever cares about my feelings, I should have just kept it to myself like I always do.”

Once the baby arrived, the mother-in-law ignored their boundaries — kissing the child even when asked not to and assuming she would be their go-to babysitter.

Recently, the MIL “gifted” the couple free basketball tickets she got from work for their anniversary. They decided not to go, and she gave the tickets to her brother so they were used anyway.

She also assumed the couple would want to go out to celebrate and offered to watch their daughter. But the poster had already asked her own mother to babysit, as she regularly does.

“My MIL got angry and said if we wanted to go out to dinner or do something else (since we weren’t going to the game), she could watch our baby,” the woman recalled. “I told my husband no. He told her we were just staying home.”

When the couple eventually went on a date, they found out the mother-in-law had driven by their house twice and later texted them, “if you didn’t want me to watch MY grandbaby, you could have told me instead of lying.”

“She’s literally driving by our house to see if we’re home???? I’m sorry, but that’s crossing a line,” she wrote.

Her husband told his mother she “was out of line and that he is a grown adult with a family of his own & she does not need to be keeping tabs on him,” but she became “EXTREMELY defensive.”

The woman says she is at her “wits’ end” and has told her husband she does “not want a relationship with her.”

“I don’t feel comfortable with her watching our daughter, she definitely seems unstable,” she added. “I understand that this is his mom, but she has crossed way too many boundaries and I cannot feel comfortable around her any longer. What would you do???”

She also mentioned that she is in therapy and talks about these issues “frequently,” but still worries if she might be “overreacting.”

Commenters were supportive and encouraged her to set more boundaries.

“Yikes… I would mute her notifications, move with no forwarding address, and let my husband deal with her, assuming he even wants to,” one user wrote. “Stalking your house to see if you ‘lied’ is next level.”