Bride Wants to Disinvite Friend from Wedding After Finding Out She’s Not Invited to Hers

A bride-to-be is questioning her friendship after discovering that a close friend won’t be attending her wedding.

In a post on Reddit’s “Wedding” forum, the bride, who described herself as “upset,” shared that she feels hurt after learning her “longtime good friend,” also engaged, had excluded her from her wedding guest list—even though she had accepted an invitation to hers.

The two women are set to get married just one month apart next year. Since both weddings are “quite large,” with more than 100 friends and family members already invited, the Redditor assumed she would be included in her friend’s celebration.

“Just to be clear, I would not be offended if they were having a small <50 person wedding and I wasn’t invited as we aren’t best friends but we are still good friends (I thought) and see each other often throughout the year,” she explained.

Her frustration, she said, isn’t about missing a “big event” but stems from feeling that their friendship now seems “one-sided.”

“I’m not handing out wedding invites to get invites back, but I am upset that I thought we were closer friends than she thinks we are and I really only want close friends at my wedding,” the bride wrote. “Which is fine, I can now adjust my expectations I guess.”

She concluded her post by asking the forum: “Should I uninvite her politely?”

In the comments, Reddit users advised her to speak with her friend before making any decisions. They noted that similar-sized weddings don’t necessarily allow for the same number of friend invitations, and family size or other factors could influence guest lists.

“No, you invited her. Stick to it,” one commenter wrote. “Regardless of the number, she may not be able to invite as many friends. Maybe huge families on both sides, parent pressure for the guests list.”

Another user added, “Some people have bigger families that take up space, some people don’t and have friends making up a large portion. Weddings are not tit for tat, everyone is different.”

The poster acknowledged in a follow-up comment that her friend might have a “larger family to friend ratio” at her wedding, but noted that she hadn’t considered this because everyone else in their friend group was invited.