Woman Doesn’t Want to Let Mother-in-Law Stay for a Month, but Her Husband Already Said Yes

A woman is feeling overwhelmed after telling her husband that his mother can no longer stay with them for extended visits.

Posting to Reddit’s Am I Overreacting community, she explained that while she and her mother-in-law have a “fine” relationship, hosting her is always exhausting.

“She stays with us for two weeks every summer, and even that feels draining,” the woman wrote. “She critiques my cooking, rearranges my kitchen, and expects to be entertained nonstop.”

This year, her husband called from work and mentioned that his mother wanted to stay with them for an entire month while her house undergoes renovations. Before even asking his wife, he told his mom yes.

Since both partners work from home and the guest room doubles as her office, the arrangement would leave her without a workspace for weeks.

“I immediately told him that wasn’t going to work,” she said. “Two weeks is our limit, and he should have talked to me first. I even suggested we help pay for a short-term rental nearby instead.”

Her husband didn’t take it well.

“He says I’m being selfish and unsupportive, and that I’m forcing him to go back on his word,” she explained. “He told me it’s his house too and that he should be able to host his own mother. He accused me of blowing small inconveniences out of proportion and not valuing family.”

While she admitted to feeling guilty—since her mother-in-law does need a temporary place to stay—the idea of living together for a month fills her with dread.

“The thought of losing my workspace and privacy is just too much,” she confessed.

After sharing her story online, many Reddit users sided with her.

One person commented, “Not overreacting. Your husband should have talked to you first—and if anyone’s office gets displaced, it should be his.”

Another added, “Move out for a month and let him handle his mom. I bet she’ll be ready to go home early.”

A third chimed in: “You find the short-term rental and enjoy the peace. Let your husband host solo—he’ll change his mind fast.”