Woman Is Upset ‘Really Loud’ Roommate Keeps Cleaning Their Apartment in the Middle of the Night and Waking Her Up

A woman has taken to Reddit’s Am I The A—– forum to share her frustration about a roommate who keeps waking her up at night to clean.

She explained that she shares an apartment with two other people, each with their own bedroom but shared kitchen and bathroom spaces. Although she usually goes to bed by 1 a.m., her routine has been disrupted since one roommate returned from studying abroad.

According to her post, the roommate — who she described as “neurodivergent with ADHD” — has been cleaning and rearranging things late at night, often making noise without considering others. Both he and their other roommate reportedly stay up much later than she does.

“I’ve told them multiple times that it bothers me if they’re being noisy at night,” she wrote.

She recalled one particular night when, around 10:45 p.m., she was woken up by the sound of her roommate vacuuming in the hallway. After waiting to see if the noise would stop, she got up to speak to him.

“I tried to ask nicely if he could try being more quiet and told him that I don’t think it’s okay to vacuum this late in the day because I want to sleep and it might bother the neighbors,” she said.

The roommate apologized but told her he planned to finish cleaning later that night anyway. “He told me that this is the only time he has the chance to do it and he really wants to clean the place,” she wrote, adding that he argued his desire to clean was “just as legit” as her need to sleep.

Though the situation eventually calmed down, the woman admitted she now feels guilty for interfering with something her roommate finds important. “I feel bad for stopping them from doing things that are important to them because of me wanting to go to sleep at a reasonable time,” she said.

Responses from fellow Redditors were quick to reassure her that she was in the right. Many pointed out that late-night vacuuming is inconsiderate and that most shared apartments have “quiet hours” for a reason.

“It’s common for shared accommodations to have quiet hours. If he wants to vacuum in the middle of the night, he needs his own place,” one commenter noted.

Another added, “I lived for four years with a roommate who went to bed by 10 p.m., while 4 a.m. was more normal for me. I didn’t vacuum after 9:30 p.m. She didn’t vacuum before 11 a.m. Those were broom hours.”

A third commenter suggested a practical approach: “Just point out the number of times before 8 p.m. he could have vacuumed over the next week. People who say they have ‘no time’ are the worst.”

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