Woman Accuses Her Friend of Being a ‘Brat’ for Complaining About Her $80K Wedding, Paid for by Her Parents

A woman says she called her friend a “brat” after listening to her repeatedly complain about her lavish wedding — an event her parents generously paid for.

In a post on Reddit, the woman explained that the argument has left her questioning whether she was wrong for calling her friend “ungrateful.” She began by noting that her friend got married a few years ago.

“She was 26 — she wasn’t a bride who had no money or resources. Her parents paid about $80k+, maybe closer to $100k, for her wedding, which is a huge amount of money,” she wrote.

The original poster (OP) said she knew her friend hadn’t been happy with her wedding day but didn’t fully understand why. During a recent visit, she asked her friend if she was “finally” going to hang some of her wedding portraits. She was surprised when her friend replied that she had no intention of doing so because “she doesn’t like thinking about the day she got married.”

That comment led to a deeper conversation about the event, during which the bride began “crying and ranting” about her wedding.

“I was empathetic at first, but at some point I started to get annoyed. Her parents poured a fortune into her wedding, more than I or most people could ever dream of, and she’s just completely ungrateful to them for it,” the OP wrote. “She ranted about everything from the flowers to the food to the people her parents invited.”

According to the OP, her friend’s main issue is that she “had a religious/cultural wedding to appease her parents and it didn’t turn out exactly how she wanted.”

Even so, the OP feels that her friend is “an adult” who chose to let her parents cover the enormous cost of the celebration instead of paying for the wedding herself.

When the OP pointed that out, the discussion escalated.

“She wants to act like some sort of martyr because she made concessions to her parents because she’s an only child,” she wrote. “She implied that I was jealous, and I said of course I am. That’s a lot of money and you’re being such a brat about it. She got really upset, and I ended up leaving her house.”

In the comments section, many readers were more sympathetic to the bride, suggesting she may have felt backed into a corner.

“Did she go along with her parents’ demands for a religious ceremony just so they’d pay? Or was it the kind of thing that would have damaged their relationship and caused a lot of stress if she refused?” one commenter asked. “I think it’s different if she was just being greedy vs going along out of pressure/guilt, etc.”

Another person agreed, writing, “I will say that family pressure can be pretty overwhelming, and it sounds like your friend kinda got bowled over at every turn with the wedding.”

Someone else urged the OP to consider that there might be more going on beneath the surface.

“You see the story only from one side — that her parents paid for her wedding, and it was at a major cost. But what cost to your friend? Maybe she had no choice but to say no. You don’t really know the relationship between her and her parents,” they wrote, adding, “She attended the wedding her parents wanted, not the one she would have chosen for herself.”