Man’s Girlfriend Demands His Sister Visit Their Newborns Despite $1.5K Travel Cost

Family expectations can collide hard with real-life logistics — especially when siblings live more than a thousand miles apart.

For one Reddit user, that distance turned what should have been a happy family milestone into a stressful mix of travel pressure, hurt feelings and miscommunication after her brother and his girlfriend welcomed long-awaited twins.

The 40-year-old poster shared that she, her husband and their two kids (ages 6 and 9) moved “a little over 1,000 miles from our home state about 2.5 years ago.”

Even so, she genuinely wanted to support her brother and his girlfriend, knowing how much they’d struggled to start a family. She had already traveled back for the baby shower over the summer, noting that she “spent over $1,000 to be there.”

She emphasized that, overall, her family usually gets along and that gatherings are warm and positive. Still, she admitted, “the only person who I would be less excited to see is my brother’s girlfriend.”

That hesitation came from a previous conflict. The girlfriend once sent her a text accusing her of being “a bad daughter to my dad and mom an bad sister to my brothers.”

“The shortened version of her issues with me was that I don’t call my dad enough and I didn’t reach out to my brothers enough in the months leading up to our move,” the Reddit user explained.

The message arrived at an especially vulnerable time, when she was dealing with postpartum depression, anxiety, and the stress of an impending out-of-state move. Despite all of that, she apologized and tried to move on from the incident.

After the twins were born, she told her brother and his girlfriend that she would “try and visit before the end of the year,” but the timing hadn’t worked out yet.

She carefully budgeted for the trip, explaining that “it will cost me $1,500 to see them,” and said she had set that money aside specifically to visit. To keep everyone in the loop, she mentioned possible windows — saying things like “maybe early December” — but never locked in specific dates.

Still, her brother and his girlfriend repeatedly told her she needed to come “before they’re too big,” and her mother relayed that the girlfriend was upset and complaining that the poster “keeps changing the date.”

From the poster’s perspective, this was unfair. “I’ve never committed to a date,” she pointed out.

She also remembered that when she had her second child and lived less than two hours away from her brother and his girlfriend, “they didn’t travel to us to meet our baby.”

“They met her at a family holiday event when she was 3 months,” she wrote.

Feeling frustrated, she added, “I can’t believe the audacity of these two,” believing they didn’t fully appreciate the time, effort and financial strain of traveling such a long distance with kids.

Now, she’s left wondering whether she’s actually in the wrong for not having visited yet — or whether her brother and his girlfriend are expecting too much.

“I don’t feel that I’ve given definitive date for my travel so until then it’s up in the air and should be treated as so,” she concluded.