Planning a celebratory senior trip hasn’t been as fun as expected for one group of soon-to-be college graduates, thanks to drama over one friend’s significant other.
A 22-year-old woman shared on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum that she and her mixed-gender friend group are organizing a week-long trip abroad as their “last hurrah” before graduation and moving away from each other.
In the middle of planning, a 21-year-old guy in the group casually mentioned that he had invited his 19-year-old girlfriend to come along on the senior trip.
According to the poster, that announcement didn’t sit well with everyone. “A couple friends and I were kind of bothered by this, as we were hoping to have some quality friend time,” she wrote. “When she is around, obviously we don’t get to see as much of him.”
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She added that she’s torn about how to handle it. On one hand, she doesn’t want to hurt the girlfriend’s feelings or make it seem like she isn’t welcome. On the other, she’s frustrated that her friend invited his partner without checking with the group first, and she’s nervous about how the extra person could change the group dynamic on a trip that’s supposed to be about their long-standing friendship.
Feeling conflicted, she turned to Reddit to ask if she was in the wrong “for not wanting my friend to bring his girlfriend on our friend group’s senior trip?”
Commenters were divided.
Some suggested trying to see it from the boyfriend’s perspective. “You say it’s your last hurrah. It’s very possible because it’s the last hurrah he sees it as his last opportunity to introduce his girlfriend to his very best friends before everyone splits,” one person pointed out.
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Others firmly backed the original poster, saying the group has the right to decide whether the trip is for core members only.
“If the group decides that it wants this to be closed to others outside the core, then your friend needs to decide whether he still wants to go and explain to his gf that he jumped the gun,” one commenter wrote, adding that “it’s awkward, but he is the one who created an issue when he made a unilateral decision.”
