New Mom Feels ‘Sad’ as Husband Refuses to Attend Friend’s Wedding with Their Baby

A disagreement over a wedding invitation has a new mom feeling let down after her husband refused to attend with their 5-month-old baby.

In a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum, a 31-year-old woman said she hoped her husband, 33, would come with their infant to her best friend’s upcoming wedding. Instead, she wrote, he “flat out refused to attend the wedding with [their] child.”

“I was really looking forward to making this wedding memory with my husband and baby, and I am really sad that it won’t be happening,” she shared, adding that she’s seen many parents bring babies to weddings — and it hurts to think she’ll be going alone.

The woman acknowledged the couple has a lot happening at once: caring for a young baby, navigating holiday plans, balancing work, and preparing to move into a new home in January. She said her husband believes adding a wedding on top of everything would make the situation even more stressful.

“Husband got mad at me for even expecting him to attend the wedding with the baby given everything going on and was upset that he had to say ‘no’ instead of me suggesting that in the first place,” she wrote. “He said it would be way easier to take care of the baby alone at home than bring her to the event.”

While she conceded he raised “fair” points, she also said the bride had made “special arrangements to accommodate [their] baby” so the child could attend, though she didn’t go into detail. She felt her husband could have at least tried to come for part of the celebration.

The woman added that she now feels “like a bad best friend” because she has to tell the bride — at the last minute — that her husband and baby won’t be there. She is also serving as a bridesmaid.

In the comments, many Redditors sided with the husband, saying the issue wasn’t that she asked — it was that she assumed he’d do it without a serious discussion about how demanding it would be.

“He doesn’t want to deal with the extra work and difficulty of taking care of a kid at a party. It’s hard work,” the top comment read, in part. “I think it was fair and justified that you asked. But no means no. Respect it.”

Another commenter agreed, pointing out the logistics and the likelihood that the husband would spend most of the event focused on childcare rather than enjoying the wedding.

Several people also emphasized a key detail: because the wife is in the bridal party, she’ll likely be busy with wedding responsibilities — meaning the husband would be handling the baby alone anyway for large portions of the day, including photos and other duties. Commenters added that the baby “won’t remember” the event, making the “memory” argument less convincing.

“YTA (You’re the A——) because you’re a bridesmaid. If you were just a guest, and able to take full responsibility for the baby, I’d say NTA (Not the A——). However, a bridesmaid is running around all day,” one person wrote. “Your husband doesn’t want to deal with a baby and probably wants a break.”