A 24-year-old woman says she’s deeply conflicted about her relationship with her parents after years of feeling overlooked, mistreated, and unsupported.
In a Reddit post, she explained that she has never had a close bond with her 27-year-old sister — and believes her sister has actively disliked her for as long as she can remember.
“If there’s a reason for it, I don’t know what it is,” she wrote, adding that her sister was always treated as the clear favorite.
She described a childhood marked by unchecked bullying. Her sister allegedly took her belongings, pushed her off chairs, forced humiliating haircuts on her, and regularly excluded or chased her away when friends were around — all without consequences from their parents.
“She would threaten to hit me just for being in the same room,” the woman wrote. “My parents never said a word.”
The situation, she said, was painfully one-sided. Any accusation from her sister was immediately believed, even when her parents witnessed events themselves.
“I could be sitting right in front of them and if she said I did something, I was punished,” she recalled. “Once my dad saw her break something and blame me — and I still got punished.”
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Despite this, the woman said she spent years trying to build a healthy relationship with her family and “earn their love back.” Instead, her sister’s behavior escalated as they got older.
“She slept with one of my boyfriends, spread lies about me to my friends, and constantly mocked my appearance,” she wrote.
At the same time, her parents continued to financially support her sister, paying for her college, buying her multiple cars, and backing her lifestyle for years. The poster said she received far less — both emotionally and financially.
Things came to a head after she got engaged.
“There was no congratulations. No happiness at all,” she wrote. During a family interaction, her sister allegedly flirted with her fiancé and told him he’d be better off with someone else — again without intervention from their parents.
Her fiancé became upset on her behalf, and the couple left. Later, he told her he believed her life would be healthier if she went no contact with her family.
She ultimately followed his advice, sending one final message explaining how she felt she had been treated. Since then, she says her mother has reacted dramatically.
“She can’t contact me directly, so she’s texting my friends and posting on social media, claiming they were loving parents and my sister was an amazing role model,” the woman wrote. “She’s saying I’m excluding them from an important part of my life.”
Unsure if she had done the right thing, the woman asked Reddit users whether she should have tried harder — or whether cutting off contact was justified.
Most responses strongly supported her decision, urging her to maintain firm boundaries.
“If you keep them in your life, your sister will try to ruin your wedding and your parents will help her,” one commenter warned. “Cut them off. Block them. Build a new family with your fiancé. I say this as someone who waited too long and regrets it.”
Another added, “Cut off these terrible people. Your fiancé sounds like a keeper — congratulations.”
The overwhelming message from commenters was clear: protecting her peace mattered more than continuing a relationship that had caused her pain for years.
