A family disagreement has erupted after two cousins planned weddings around the same time — with one bride now accused of ruining the other’s big day before it was even scheduled.
In a Reddit post shared on Tuesday, Dec. 30, a user named AlexiaGrace asked whether she had done anything wrong after a falling-out with a cousin over their weddings potentially taking place in the same month.
According to AlexiaGrace, her cousin got engaged in September 2024, while she and her fiancé became engaged in May 2025. Shortly after her own engagement, she said the two discussed wedding plans, and her cousin mentioned hoping to marry “around March or April 2026,” without confirming a venue or specific date.
In the comments, AlexiaGrace added that she had been with her partner for three years, while her cousin had been with hers for nine. “I think she might be salty that we moved along faster,” she wrote.
AlexiaGrace explained that she and her fiancé chose a similar timeframe for practical reasons, including better weather and avoiding rising costs. She said she kept her cousin informed throughout the planning process and never received objections.
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“I didn’t see any issue getting married around the same months, as long as it wasn’t the same exact weekend,” she wrote. “I really thought it would be nice to celebrate around the same time and go through this milestone together.”
The couple ultimately booked a venue in October for a late April 2026 wedding and informed the cousin of the date. Problems surfaced when AlexiaGrace began collecting addresses for save-the-dates. While her cousin continued chatting about other topics, she ignored all wedding-related messages and never submitted her address.
After weeks of silence, AlexiaGrace confronted her cousin, saying it was rude and confusing to refuse to respond. That conversation triggered an explosive reaction.
“She then blew up at us and told us it’s ‘bizarre’ and completely rude to have booked ‘their’ wedding month,” AlexiaGrace wrote, adding that her cousin accused her of ruining their wedding plans and claimed it was “common sense” that family members wouldn’t travel to two weddings in the same month.
Feeling blindsided, AlexiaGrace reviewed earlier messages and noted that when she first shared the date, her cousin responded casually and had even mentioned considering a courthouse wedding weeks earlier.
Although AlexiaGrace apologized, she said her cousin escalated the conflict, accusing her of acting intentionally and insulting her character. She also emphasized that her cousin had already been engaged for a year by the time the venue was booked.
“I think our relationship with her is suddenly over,” AlexiaGrace wrote. “Am I crazy?”
Most commenters reassured her that she wasn’t at fault. Several suggested that the cousin’s anger stemmed from deeper issues unrelated to the wedding date.
“It sounds like something is going on that’s preventing them from planning the wedding,” one user commented. “Maybe it’s finances, procrastination, or relationship issues — but she’s taking that frustration out on you.”
Others shared similar experiences, noting that long engagements can sometimes lead to resentment when others move forward more quickly. One commenter speculated that after nearly a decade together, the cousin’s engagement may have been more about delaying pressure than committing to a clear wedding plan.
For now, AlexiaGrace says she plans to move forward with her wedding, even if it means accepting that the family relationship may not recover.
