Bride Feels ‘Blindsided’ as Newly Engaged Best Friend Plans His Wedding a Month Before Hers

A bride-to-be says she feels blindsided after her best friend set his wedding date for a month before her own — even though he got engaged after she did.

In a post on Reddit’s “Am I Overreacting” forum, the 32-year-old explained that her friend, whom she describes as being like a “brother,” recently became engaged and chose a date that falls roughly a month ahead of hers. “We are both a little hurt and blindsided,” she wrote, referring to herself and her fiancé.

The bride shared that her friend met his fiancée “less than six months ago,” and she can’t understand why they’re rushing to the altar. She said she feels it’s unfair that she and her partner of “over 10 years” will be getting married after a relatively new couple — and she’s also worried the timing could interfere with the support her friend previously promised for her own wedding.

According to her, the decision came after she and her fiancé had already secured their venue and date — and after they had asked her friend to serve as best man.

“It’s odd to plan a wedding in a month you have made commitments to your best friend, and prep for wedding already. We have already asked/planned for him to help us the last weekend of the month before, and he had agreed,” she added in a comment. “I wouldn’t plan my wedding, or any big event that close to another large event I was also helping plan. That seems like extra stress.”

She continued, “Also, would you want to be in your honeymoon phase, and then one week later help with more wedding stuff? I think I will just want to enjoy my husband and the honeymoon phase for a least a few weeks. But maybe that’s me.”

In response, some commenters agreed the timing felt inconsiderate or “attention-stealing.” But most replies pushed back, saying she was reading too much into it.

“Just because they aren’t on your timeline doesn’t mean they are in the wrong,” the top comment said, adding that she was in the wrong for acting like she “own[s] the entire month before” her wedding.

Others urged her to step back and calm down. “You need to chill out. It’s not the end of the world,” one person wrote.

Several users also pointed out that weddings aren’t a contest — and that there’s enough time to celebrate both events without turning it into a rivalry. One commenter noted that a best man typically has fewer planning responsibilities than a maid of honor, so her friend may still be able to fulfill his role. If she’s still concerned, they suggested she and her fiancé consider releasing him from best man duties to avoid added pressure.