Bride Is Planning to Exclude 1 of Her Fiancé’s Friends from Her Bridal Party After the Woman ‘Crossed a Line’

A bride-to-be is turning to Reddit for advice about a tricky bridal party decision.

Posting in Reddit’s “AITA (Am I the A–hole)” forum, a 23-year-old woman explained that she’s unsure whether she’s obligated to include a specific woman in her bridal party.

She shared that she and her fiancé, Eric, have been together for four years and engaged for one. Most of their social life comes from Eric’s long-standing friend group, who have known each other since kindergarten. Several of the men in that circle are now in relationships, including Eric’s friend Tony, who is dating a woman the poster calls “Alyssa.”

When they first met, the bride says she “genuinely” liked Alyssa — but over time, things changed.

“Over time she’s become… a pick-me girl is the best way to describe it,” she wrote. “Everything has to go her way, she constantly changes plans, and she contradicts everything I say. If I say red, she says blue.”

Despite that, the bride says she still makes an effort. “I always do my best to socialize with her because I know this friendship is important to Eric,” she explained.

According to the post, tension escalated right before the engagement. Eric had told the group he was planning to propose, and while most friends were excited, Tony “said nothing, not even a congrats.”

The bride added that Alyssa later told others that Eric was “forced” into proposing, that he was “more fun” before the relationship, and that the bride “has him on a dog collar.” The comments, she said, were hurtful, especially because she feels she’s always shown how much she loves and trusts Eric and doesn’t see herself as jealous or controlling.

The couple is having a long engagement and taking wedding planning slowly. In that time, more girlfriends have joined the group.

“They’re all super sweet, supportive, and we get along really well,” she wrote.

She said the newer women already know about the “whole drama with Alyssa,” and that “some don’t like her” after experiencing her “very rude” behavior themselves.

The bride says she would “genuinely love” to have all of the other girlfriends as bridesmaids — except Alyssa. At the same time, she’s worried about upsetting the balance of a friend group that “isn’t technically” hers and doesn’t want Eric to lose his friendship with Tony.

“Why would I want someone so negative celebrating the best part of my life. I believe she crossed a line,” she wrote, before asking Reddit: “So would I be the asshole if I asked all the other girlfriends to be the bridesmaids but her?”

Many commenters replied that she would not be in the wrong.

“NTA you definitely wouldn’t be the arsehole, but be prepared for the fallout and ask yourself how much extra drama you want at an already stressful time. Only you can answer that question,” one user wrote.

Another commented, “Of course you’re NTA for only inviting who you want to your wedding, but I’d think your fiance’s input is much more important than anything you’re going to get from Reddit.”

However, not everyone agreed. One person responded, “YTA. Be a grownup and have a serious conversation with Alyssa. You all sound like you’re in middle school instead of grown adults.”