Busy Mom of 3 Says She Doesn’t Want to Attend Her Husband’s Constant Social Events: ‘It Puts a Lot of Stress on Me’

A mother is frustrated with her husband for constantly going to social events while she stays home taking care of their three children.

In a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum, the mom explained that her husband spends a lot of time coaching kids’ football, leaving her to manage both work and childcare on her own.

“My husband coaches kids’ football. He’s done this for a few years, and it wasn’t an issue until we had children,” she wrote. She added that she has two children under the age of 2, including a newborn.

“He coached full time (practice five days a week) last season when our oldest was still a baby, and I told him how difficult this was for me,” the stressed mom said.

She described handling bedtime every night, making dinner, cleaning the house, and completing the full bedtime routine, all while working four days a week, while her husband focuses only on his coaching and work.

After she became pregnant with their second child, the woman asked her husband to stop coaching, saying it caused her too much stress, but he didn’t stop for long.

“Fast forward to May, our second was born, and he wants to coach again,” she wrote. “I told him over and over I didn’t want him to, but he went back ‘part time’ … and to events.”

The mom shared that her husband recently asked her to join a pool party after one of his games, ignoring her stressful situation at home. She declined.

“I don’t go to any games or events because I don’t want to drag our kids out,” she said. She also noted that during the week, she takes her children to doctors’ appointments, as one has a heart defect and the other receives speech therapy.

The woman said her husband’s social activities “take up half his time,” leaving her feeling like a “solo parent.”

“[My husband] is at the party, texting me saying, ‘I need to get out of my comfort zone; he wishes I supported him’ … part of me feels bad,” she wrote.

Reddit users responded with advice. One said, “There’s nothing wrong with his activities if it’s something he’s passionate about. The problem arises when he puts the importance of those activities ahead of things that matter more.”

Another user suggested compromise, writing, “You can figure out what you are willing to do and how often, understanding things can change because of your kids.”