Father Supports Pregnant Teen Daughter, but His Live-in Girlfriend Says She ‘Didn’t Sign Up’ to Raise a Baby

A father turned to Reddit for advice after a difficult situation at home involving his pregnant daughter and his girlfriend, who feels blindsided by the sudden change.

The 40-year-old dad explained that his 18-year-old daughter was kicked out of her mother’s house after revealing her pregnancy. Without hesitation, he welcomed her into his home.

“I told her of course, she knows this is disappointing but she’ll never stop being my baby and if this is what’s going to happen, I’m here to support her within reason,” he wrote. He made it clear he would help with babysitting if she had school or work, but not if she just wanted to go out and party.

The father said his daughter has always been a strong student, graduating with a GPA over 4.0 and keeping a large circle of friends. “She has no idea what she wants to do with her life, and had already decided to defer her scholarship a year to take classes at the community college and work,” he explained.

Her relationship with her boyfriend, a nursing student, seemed steady, but the pregnancy changed things. When she and her boyfriend decided to keep the baby, she asked if she could live with her dad.

The father said he was proud of how the two teens handled the decision. “I told her and the boyfriend to sleep on it and they did and came back with actual thoughtful responses, and even a budget and budget goal that I found impressive,” he wrote. He quickly prepared a small room in the house for the nursery.

The dad has been dating his girlfriend for two years, and until now, things had been going smoothly. She even got along with his daughter. Recently, his girlfriend had moved in, and everything seemed fine—until the pregnancy announcement.

“She got upset and said if she wanted to raise a baby she’d have one of her own,” he explained. She also said she never agreed to this and that his daughter, now an adult, should handle it herself.

When he told her that wasn’t an option, she gave him an ultimatum. “She threatened to move out if I didn’t tell [my daughter] to get out, then got mad that I told her I understood,” he admitted. Since then, she has either avoided them or acted “snippy,” creating tension at home.

The father is torn between his loyalty to his daughter and his relationship. “I don’t know what she expects me to do, but it’s making the entire house anxious,” he wrote. He also pointed out that his daughter has always lived with him and the only surprise here is the pregnancy, not her presence in the home.

Some Reddit commenters suggested his girlfriend might be worried she’ll be stuck with childcare duties. But the dad said he has already made his expectations clear.

“I’ve made it clear that all she will owe to the baby is to help in emergencies – and by emergencies I mean this is not only extreme but urgent like I’d ask a very good neighbor if that makes sense,” he explained. He promised that if both his daughter and her boyfriend were unavailable, he would cancel his own plans before asking his girlfriend for help.

“The only exception is if she offers, and I have no expectations that she will offer. I think I’m being fair,” he added.

Still, his girlfriend remains unhappy, and the once-peaceful household feels strained. The father said he is committed to supporting his daughter and her baby, even though it puts his relationship at risk.

As he summed it up: “She’ll always be my daughter and needs help.”