Friend Accuses Teen Photographer of Ruining Halloween for Shutting Down Graveyard Photoshoot

A 19-year-old woman turned to Reddit for advice after refusing to take her friends’ Halloween photos in a cemetery — a decision that sparked unexpected tension within her small friend group.

The young woman, who described herself as a hobby photographer, often takes pictures for her friends during holidays or casual outings. This Halloween, she and her group — her boyfriend and two close friends, referred to as A and B — planned to go trick-or-treating and then attend a party together.

Before heading out, they decided to take themed photos to commemorate the night. But when friend A revealed that her chosen “perfect spot” for the shoot was a cemetery, the poster said she immediately felt uneasy.

“I wasn’t comfortable with that,” she explained, adding that it wasn’t an old or abandoned site but an “active cemetery where people are still being buried and families still visit.” To her, the idea felt “disrespectful and creepy.”

Trying to avoid conflict, she offered an alternative: she’d sit out and let her boyfriend take the photos if he was okay with it. However, he agreed with her, saying it would be inappropriate.

That’s when A made a comment that stunned them both — insisting it wasn’t a big deal because “at the one I found, they’re fertilizer by now.”

Her boyfriend pushed back, asking A to consider how she’d feel if others took photos near a loved one’s grave. “What if that was your grandma’s grave? Would you want people disrespecting it like that?” he asked. But A dismissed the concern.

From there, the atmosphere soured. “Since then, things have been tense,” the woman admitted. “A has been cold toward me, and B told me I should’ve just agreed because I’m making it a big deal and causing drama.”

The poster said she never meant to ruin anyone’s night but didn’t feel right doing a photoshoot in a cemetery — especially when her name and camera would be attached to the pictures.

One commenter on Reddit supported her decision, saying, “You set a boundary and your friend doesn’t seem to understand that. She should’ve backed off once you said no. A caused the drama, not you.”

Another user offered a different viewpoint, suggesting that cemeteries can be part of everyday life as long as people remain respectful: “I get being mindful around graves, but death is part of life — we shouldn’t have to treat cemeteries as completely off-limits.”