A woman on Mumsnet shared that she didn’t find humor in a text from her long-distance boyfriend after he described a late night out that pushed her boundaries.
She explained that her partner of two years had gone partying with friends, and the next morning messaged her to say he’d been out until 5 a.m. Curious — and joking — she asked whether he had “pulled” another woman.
According to her, his answer wiped the smile off her face.
He replied: “No but I almost did, got dancing with a very attractive lady. I think she would have kissed me had I let her but I thought better of it as my mates were there. Didn’t even get her number.”
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The tone of the exchange quickly shifted. She asked whether the only reason he hadn’t kissed the woman was because his friends were watching. He initially replied “OK no it wasn’t,” but she said she was already upset by then.
She told him that kissing the woman or exchanging numbers would have shown “an intention to form a connection.” His response? “But I didn’t do it, did I?”
She asked fellow forum members whether she was being unreasonable, adding that the exchange left her hurt and disrespected. She also noted that he seemed irritated with her for being upset, leaving her unsure whether he had simply phrased things poorly or revealed more than he intended.
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Forum users didn’t hold back in their reactions.
One commenter wrote, “He has no respect for you and is behaving like he’s single, because in his head he is. Leave and find yourself someone emotionally mature enough to know that none of this is ok.”
Another was far more direct: “Tell him to f— right off.”
