Her Boyfriend’s Dad Got a New Girlfriend. Now, She Feels ‘Pushed Out’ of the Family

A 19-year-old woman has opened up online about how her boyfriend’s dad’s new girlfriend is slowly making her feel unwelcome in what once felt like her second home.

In a Reddit post, she explained that she and her boyfriend, also 19, have been together for five years, and she’s known his family for nearly a decade. When they first started dating, his dad was with a different partner who was very controlling and often spoke badly about her, so the couple rarely spent time at his dad’s house.

About a year ago, his dad and that partner split up. After the breakup, she and her boyfriend began staying at his dad’s place several nights a week. They grew closer as a family, supported his dad through the separation, and she even took on a lot of the cooking and cleaning. His 15-year-old brother started to feel like a real sibling, and the house genuinely felt like home.

A few months later, things changed when his dad started using dating apps.

“Eventually he met a woman he liked,” she wrote. “At first she was extremely quiet, but she also made no effort to talk to me. She would speak to everyone else and ignore me when I tried to contribute to conversations.”

Soon, she began to notice more unsettling behavior.

“I started noticing my belongings moved or hidden,” she continued. “My toothbrush, which is normally in the cup with everyone else’s, was shoved into a cupboard, and hers was left in the cup. My things would disappear from where I’d left them, replaced with her stuff. No one else in the house touched them.”

“She also let herself into the house once when no one but my boyfriend and his brother were home,” she added. “She didn’t acknowledge me when I arrived later that day, but acted like she owned the place.”

Things escalated further after one long day at work. The poster said she came home exhausted and mentioned that she wasn’t hungry and just wanted to sleep. The new girlfriend — who usually barely spoke to her — suddenly told her in a blunt, emotionless tone to “just stop and get food.” The unexpected directness completely threw her off.

Not long after, she and her boyfriend moved with his dad into a new rental, where they now contribute to the rent. While talking about what they needed for the new place, his dad mentioned that he needed his new girlfriend’s approval on certain decisions. That stung, especially given how much she had supported him — and the fact that the woman doesn’t even live there.

Then came what she described as the final straw.

“While I was at work, she showed up unannounced and brought her two kids (10F, 6F). They went through our room and ate almost all the brownies me and my boyfriend’s brother had baked,” she wrote. “She bought advent calendars and snacks for everyone except me, even though I had gotten her a Christmas card to be inclusive.”

Despite all of this, her boyfriend doesn’t see a problem.

“My boyfriend doesn’t see the issue. But I feel pushed out of a family I’ve been part of for years, and it’s starting to cause arguments because I don’t feel comfortable in the house anymore,” she said.

Since sharing her story, commenters have offered both validation and practical advice.

“Have you asked her directly? Does she know you pay rent? It’s not cool that your boyfriend is being dismissive of your feelings. This could be a red flag for future issue[s],” one person wrote.

Another commenter said, “Honestly this is definitely a weird situation. She’s not being nice and you don’t have to like her, but it doesn’t matter if you accept her into your boyfriend’s family. You can talk to your boyfriend’s dad about what’s going on.”

Someone else suggested a more decisive step: “You need to talk to your boyfriend and tell him you feel unwelcome and want to move out. Then you should follow through with or without your boyfriend. Their behavior shows that they don’t consider you as family and you need to look after yourself.”