Husband Says It’s ‘Unfair’ Pregnant Wife Banned His Mom from Delivery Room, Wants Her There to ‘Support Him’

A 26-year-old expectant mother turned to Reddit for advice after a disagreement with her husband about who should be allowed at the hospital when she gives birth.

Now 34 weeks pregnant, she explained that she wants only her husband and her twin sister — her chosen support person — present during labor and delivery. Her husband, however, recently began pushing for his mother to wait at the hospital, something the mom-to-be is uncomfortable with.

In her post, she said she and her husband, 27, are preparing to welcome their first child, a baby boy, in about six weeks. Early in her pregnancy, she had already spoken with her mother-in-law, who said she understood and was fine with not being in either the delivery or waiting room.

The woman said she and her husband had agreed multiple times on this plan. “He was fine with it the first few times,” she wrote, emphasizing that neither of their mothers would be present. “I don’t have a super close relationship with my mom, and I don’t want my bonus mom or MIL, who are both wonderful, there during labor and delivery — that’s been the plan since the beginning.”

But as the due date draws closer, her husband’s attitude has shifted. “Now all of a sudden he has a problem that I don’t want anyone even in the waiting room,” she shared. “He thinks it’s unfair that he can’t have his mom to support him.” She described her husband as “a major mama’s boy,” adding that he’s known her wishes for months.

The mom-to-be said her husband insists that he deserves emotional support, too, and grew upset when she said she didn’t want many people even knowing she was in labor. She stood firm, explaining that the birth experience is hers to manage. “It could take days or 20 minutes — we don’t need an audience,” she said.

She told her husband he’s welcome to text his mother during labor, as long as it doesn’t distract from what’s happening. “I said you could text her throughout, but I need your focus on us — not worrying about your mom sitting in the waiting room when I’m the one going through everything,” she wrote.

According to her, her mother-in-law already agreed not to come until both mom and baby are ready for visitors. Still, the disagreement left her wondering if she’s being unreasonable — or if her husband is relying too heavily on his mom.

Commenters largely supported her boundaries. One wrote, “The only people in the delivery or waiting room are the people you want there. Don’t let anyone ruin your peace when you’re about to give birth.”

Another commenter took a softer stance: “I can understand not wanting her in the delivery room, but maybe letting her wait outside would comfort your husband. He’s not giving birth, but it’s still a big emotional moment for him, too.”