Man Asks Woman to Move Out After Inheriting Family Home, Even Though She Was Like a ‘Sister’ to Him

A man turned to the Reddit community for advice after facing a tough situation with a woman he grew up with and considers like a sister.

In a post on the AITAH forum, he explained the complicated family dynamic and wondered if he was wrong for asking her to leave his late mother’s house.

“When I was a kid, my parents had a housekeeper who sadly passed away when her daughter was still very young, under 5,” he wrote. “After that, my parents basically raised her. They paid for her schooling, college, vacations, treated her like family, but they never legally adopted her.”

Even though she was never formally adopted, she became part of the household and was considered “kind of like a sister” to him and his two biological siblings. “The truth is, my family has always been very cold and distant,” he added. “None of us ever had a close or loving relationship, not even with each other.”

After his father died three years ago and his mother more recently, family ties weakened further. “Since my parents passed, I don’t really hear from my brothers anymore. We’ve all gone our separate ways, mostly for the best,” he shared.

When it came time to divide the inheritance, his siblings took their share and moved on. “The house and some money were left to me,” he said, noting that the woman he calls his sister still lives there.

Now, he feels it’s time to sell the property. “She still lives in that house, but I want to sell it now, which means she needs to move out,” he wrote.

The woman asked him for financial help to ease her transition. “She asked for some monetary support so she can move on with her life as well, but I don’t think she has this claim,” he said, adding that she reached out to his siblings for help but “neither answered her.”

He explained that in their country, it’s common for children to stay with their parents until marriage, so her living there hadn’t been unusual. Still, he feels the situation has reached its limit. “My other family members feel like we should at least give her something. I think she already had enough, and I need her out so I can sell the house and move on from all of this,” he admitted.

One Reddit user offered advice, saying that since she’s an adult with a job, she should have savings and be prepared for moving costs. “If she chose not to save, give her a few months before evicting her. NTA for wanting her out of your house so you can sell your property,” the commenter wrote.

The man added more context about her situation. “She’s around 24, has a job, a college degree in law, and could be a lawyer if she could keep a serious job, which she can’t because she is just like us,” he explained.

He said that although she works sometimes, she struggles to maintain consistency. “If I let her stay, I’ll be her new father for eternity. She went to college and can’t keep a good job because she doesn’t care, even though she works when she feels like it, just like my brother and my sister,” he wrote.

He pointed out what he sees as the key difference between her and his siblings. “The only difference is they have the means to support their reckless lifestyle, at least for a while, while she doesn’t,” he noted.

In the end, he believes he can’t take responsibility for her anymore. “I don’t want to be responsible for something that’s not my responsibility,” he concluded.