Man Asks Woman to Move Out After Inheriting Family Home, Even Though She Was Like a ‘Sister’ to Him

A man turned to Reddit for advice after a difficult situation with a woman he grew up with — someone he sees more like a sister than a family friend.

In his post on the AITAH forum, he described the complicated family history that now has him questioning whether he’s wrong for asking her to leave his late mother’s home.

“When I was a kid, my parents had a housekeeper who sadly passed away when her daughter was very young, maybe under five,” he wrote. “After that, my parents basically raised her. They paid for her school, college, vacations, treated her like family — but they never legally adopted her.”

Even though she wasn’t formally adopted, she became a part of the household and felt like a sibling to him and his two biological brothers. Still, he explained that his family was never particularly close. “The truth is, my family has always been very cold and distant. None of us ever had a close or loving relationship, not even with each other.”

After his father passed away three years ago and his mother more recently, the family grew even further apart. “Since my parents died, I don’t really hear from my brothers anymore either — we’ve all gone our separate ways, which is probably for the best,” he said.

When the inheritance was divided, his two brothers took their share and moved on. “The house and some money were left to me,” he explained, adding that the woman he calls his sister has continued living there.

Now, he feels it’s time to sell the home and move forward with his life. “She still lives in that house, but I want to sell it now, which means she needs to move out,” he wrote.

The woman asked him for some financial help to make the transition easier. “She asked for some monetary support so she can move on with her life as well, but I don’t think she has this claim,” he said. She also reached out to his brothers, but “neither answered her.”

He acknowledged that in their country it’s common for adult children to live with their parents until they marry, so her staying in the house wasn’t unusual. Still, he feels it’s time for things to change. “My other family members think we should at least give her something. I think she already had enough, and I need her out so I can sell the house and move on,” he admitted.

One Reddit user shared their opinion, pointing out that she’s an adult and should have been prepared. “If she chose not to save, give her a few months before evicting her. NTA for wanting her out of your house so you can sell your property,” the commenter wrote.

The man followed up with more details about her situation. “She’s around 24 years old and has a job. She has a college degree in law and could be a lawyer if she could keep a serious job — but she can’t, because she’s just like us,” he explained.

While she does work at times, he said she struggles with consistency. “If I let her stay, I’ll be her new father forever. She went to college and can’t keep a nice job because she doesn’t care, even though she works when she feels like it — just like my brother and just like my sister,” he said.

The man emphasized what he sees as the big difference between her and his siblings. “The only difference is they have the means to support their reckless lifestyle, at least for a while, while she doesn’t,” he noted.

In the end, he made his position clear. “I don’t want to be responsible for something that isn’t my responsibility,” he concluded.