Man Dumps Girlfriend After She Made Out with a Local Athlete. She Claims It ‘Didn’t Count’ and ‘Wasn’t Even That Bad’

A man turned to Reddit for perspective after ending a relationship when his girlfriend acted on what she claimed was an agreed-upon “freebie.” The incident happened years ago, but he admitted he still wondered whether he “was in the wrong here.”

Thinking back, he described a lighthearted conversation where they each shared their “hall pass” lists. His picks were all actresses and singers, while her list “included mostly athletes from our hometown.” He found it “odd” that her choices were people they might realistically run into, but at the time, he “thought nothing of it.”

Months later, his girlfriend went out to celebrate a friend’s birthday and ended up at a packed downtown club. That’s where, according to him, “my gf ended up making out with one of the guys on her list,” something he only discovered when a friend who was there told him afterward.

When he confronted her, she didn’t deny it. He recalled her saying yes, it happened — but insisting it wasn’t cheating. In his words, “she said yes it did happen but then insisted that because it was with someone on her previously disclosed list that it didn’t count.”

He was shocked and hurt, especially because he had already experienced betrayal in a past relationship. “I had been cheated on before in a relationship years prior and it shattered my trust,” he wrote, and he never imagined he’d “deal with cheating from my otherwise loving and supportive girlfriend.”

What upset him further was how she tried to minimize what happened. She told him “it was just making out and touching so it wasn’t even that bad,” and claimed she wouldn’t have been bothered if he’d done the same thing with someone on his list.

In that moment, he decided the relationship was over. “I didn’t know what to say but I just ended it there,” he wrote, feeling she had been “unfaithful to me just to make out with a celebrity who didn’t actually give a s— about her.”

Looking back years later, he wondered if he “overreacted” and admitted he had no idea how he might have responded if a famous person had actually shown interest in him. Still, Reddit commenters overwhelmingly agreed he made the right call.

“NTA. But in the future you should probably set boundaries,” one person advised, adding that “a freebie or hall pass list is never a good idea.”

Another commenter was more blunt: “NTA but definitely a dumba– for staying with a woman whose hall passes were all local guys that she could actually hook up with.”