A man found himself in trouble with his girlfriend’s best friend.
He shared on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum that he was repeatedly asked for his opinion on the friend’s relationship and potential prenup. When he finally shared his thoughts, the friend called him “rude.”
“Every 2 to 3 weeks my girlfriend hosts a girls’ night at my place while I go out to run, get drinks, and have dinner with my run club,” the man wrote. “They usually finish up when I come back. Her best friend and I never really clicked, but we are civil and friendly.”
During one of these gatherings, the topic of the friend’s boyfriend came up. “She has been dating him for 1.5 years. Marriage came up, and she said he wanted a prenup,” he said. “The best friend said, ‘It seems he is expecting it to fail.’”
That’s when they asked the man for his opinion. “I declined,” he said. “But the best friend kept insisting even after I got back from the shower. I said, ‘It’s easy for you to say that when the only asset you are bringing to your marriage is a 2014 CRV.’”
“The best friend went quiet and left soon after,” he continued. “She messaged my girlfriend saying I was rude, and my girlfriend said I could have stayed quiet.”
The man then explained more about the boyfriend’s financial situation. “He is smart, got his Ph.D., and has been working for [a tech company] since 2017 or 2018,” he said. “He is likely bringing millions into the marriage and is protecting it.”
Wondering if he had been rude, he asked, “Am I the a—— for voicing my opinion honestly when I was repeatedly asked for it in my own apartment?”
One reader replied, “The friend pushed and didn’t like the answer, but that doesn’t make you wrong. A prenup isn’t about expecting failure, it’s about protecting what each person brings in. She asked, you answered.”
Another Redditor criticized the man’s delivery, saying, “You weren’t wrong about the logic, but the delivery was rough. If you knew it would sting, you could’ve just said, ‘Prenups protect both people,’ and left it there. Being honest doesn’t mean you have to go for the jugular.”
