A man found himself in hot water with his girlfriend’s best friend after giving an unsolicited opinion on her relationship.
He shared on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum that he was repeatedly asked to weigh in on the friend’s relationship and a potential prenup with her partner — only for the friend to call his answer “rude.”
“Every 2 to 3 weeks my girlfriend hosts a girls’ night at my place while I go out for drinks and dinner with my run club,” he wrote. “They are usually wrapping up when I come back. Me and her best friend never really clicked. We are civil and friendly.”
During one of these gatherings, the conversation turned to the friend’s boyfriend. “She has been dating him for 1.5 years. The topic of marriage came up, and she said he wanted a prenup,” he recalled. “The best friend said, ‘It seems he is expecting it to fail.’”
The man said he initially declined to comment. “[But] the best friend kept insisting even after I got back from the shower, and I said, ‘It’s easy for you to say that when the only asset you are bringing to your marriage is a 2014 CRV.’”
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“The best friend went quiet and left soon after,” he continued. “She messaged my gf that I was rude, and gf says I could have been quiet.”
He then provided more context about the boyfriend’s financial situation. “He is smart, got his Ph.D, and has been working for [a tech company] since 2017 or 2018,” he explained. “He is likely bringing millions into the marriage and is safeguarding it.”
Wondering if he had crossed a line, he asked, “Am I the a—— for voicing my opinion honestly when I was repeatedly asked for it in my own apartment?”
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One Reddit user responded, “The friend pushed and didn’t like the answer, but that doesn’t make you wrong. A prenup isn’t about expecting failure, it’s about protecting what each person brings in. She asked, you answered.”
Another pointed out the delivery. “You weren’t wrong about the logic, but the delivery was rough,” they wrote. “If you knew it would sting, you could’ve just said, ‘Prenups protect both people,’ and left it there. Being honest doesn’t mean you have to go for the jugular.”
