A 25-year-old man said he’s “never” going to hang out with his boyfriend’s friends again, but now he’s wondering if his reaction is a little “dramatic.”
In an Aug. 10 Reddit post on the platform’s AITAH (Am I the A——) subreddit, he explained why he decided to cut off his boyfriend’s friend group. While some users agreed with his frustration, most said he was probably overreacting.
The man said he and his 24-year-old boyfriend had planned to spend the weekend together. At first, the plans were casual, but then his boyfriend asked if he wanted to go to the beach. Since they don’t usually go to the beach, the man found this “suspicious” and asked who would be there. That’s when he learned it would be a group outing with his boyfriend’s friends, not just the two of them.
He told his boyfriend that after a long week, he wasn’t really in the mood to socialize. But because his boyfriend was upset, he decided to go anyway.
On the day of the plans, he said he even went shopping for beach supplies and tried to get excited. But when he called his boyfriend to confirm the time, he was told the group canceled. This left him annoyed since he hadn’t wanted to go in the first place but had pushed himself to be positive.
“I told him I don’t want to hang out with his friends again because everyone is so indecisive and last-minute. I feel like that’s disrespectful of my time and energy,” he wrote, adding that his own friends cancel plans only days in advance, not at the last minute.
He asked Reddit, “AITAH for telling my boyfriend I’m never hanging out with his friends again?” and admitted he wanted to know if he was being dramatic.
Several Reddit users thought his frustration was fair but agreed the “lifetime ban” was too extreme. One top comment read: “I can see why you’re irritated. But a lifetime hangout ban is extreme and dramatic.” The man responded that while he could respect that view, he still didn’t want to hang out with them for now.
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Another user said, “It would piss me off, too, BUT would it piss me off to the extent that I would say I will never hang out with them again? No.” That same user added that unless this behavior was a repeated pattern, he was being dramatic.
The man replied that this wasn’t the first time. He described three separate incidents: one where they planned to go clubbing but half the group didn’t show, another beach trip where people split into cliques and argued over food and money, and finally, the most recent canceled outing.
In the end, only one commenter strongly supported him: “That would piss me off too. You gave up your plans and then they dropped you. Screw that!”
The man said that comment made him feel validated: “Thank you!!!! It makes me feel so dumb for getting excited just to be disappointed.”
