Man Skips Twin Brother’s Wedding After Being Snubbed at Engagement Party 

A 28-year-old man took to Reddit seeking advice after deciding not to attend his brother’s wedding, following a snub at their engagement party.

He explains that he and his twin brother were once inseparable, and until recently, he believed they remained very close.

“I was always more of a shy nerd and he was an extrovert who played sports throughout our childhood and high school, but we spent almost all of our time together, by choice,” he shared, adding that they parted ways in college when they attended different schools.

While his brother stayed near home in Arizona, he moved to Portland after graduation. Still, he “always flew back home for holidays, events, birthdays, etc.”

When his brother announced on Instagram that he and his girlfriend of three years were engaged, the man was genuinely happy and sent his congratulations.

His brother mentioned plans for an engagement party in 6 to 8 weeks, and the poster asked to be informed so he could arrange travel to celebrate.

However, he “was never told a date,” and whenever he asked his brother or family, the topic was either changed or dismissed as still being in the planning stage.

After several weeks with no updates, he reached out again to avoid booking a last-minute flight — but received no response.

Turning to his mom, he was told, “It’s not really an engagement party, just a small dinner with family. There’s no need to come down for it.”

Later, he discovered this was far from the truth. It was actually “a big party.”

“They rented out an entire restaurant for four hours with about 80 guests — family, friends, cousins, everyone. Everyone was told I couldn’t make it,” he revealed.

His aunt, who was like a second mother to him, expressed disappointment that he couldn’t attend. He explained he would have come if invited.

Word quickly spread about his exclusion, and his parents and brother tried to dismiss it as a misunderstanding.

Nearly a year later, he still hasn’t learned why he was left out.

His family’s excuses shifted from it being a “small gathering” to “a miscommunication,” and eventually, “just a party, no big deal.”

He asked his brother if he was upset with him or if maybe his fiancé disliked him, wondering why his parents seemed fine with the snub — behavior he found unlike them.

Holidays became tense, with an unspoken awkwardness lingering. At one gathering, his sister remarked that it felt like he was “not really family anymore” since moving away.

Though invited to the wedding itself, he was excluded from the wedding party, unlike his sister and younger brother. He wasn’t given a plus-one for his girlfriend of over a year, yet his sister was allowed one for a man she wasn’t even officially dating.

Feeling unwelcome, he suspected his invitation was more for appearances and decided not to attend. He avoided RSVPing “no” to prevent drama.

The wedding took place recently, and he received no invitations or calls about the rehearsal dinner, confirming he wasn’t expected there either.

An hour before the ceremony, he started getting calls and texts asking where he was. He ignored them until after it ended.

When he finally answered his mom’s call, she angrily demanded, “Where the hell are you?”

He replied, “In Portland, where you all prefer me to be.”

She said, “This is your brother’s wedding, how could you embarrass us?”

He responded, “It’s just a party. It’s no big deal, right?”

His mother was reportedly speechless.

After a brief silence, he said, “Tell everyone I said hi,” and ended the call.

In the days following, family members accused him of being petty and ruining the day.

But commenters on Reddit largely sided with him, saying he was “just matching their energy.”

One wrote, “Message your family that since they decided you don’t count as family anymore, you’re acting accordingly. They decided to essentially cut you out because you moved, so they can face the consequences.”

Another suggested, “I’d stop going to holidays going forward too,” to which the man replied, “Agreed. Not gonna happen anytime soon.”