Man Tells Sister No One Can Touch His Newborns — Then She Finds a Video of Other Family Members Holding Them

A woman shared on Reddit that her brother recently established a rule that no one should carry or touch his newborn twins — but she later noticed he was allowing certain family members close to the babies.

She explained that before the children were born, her brother “sent a paragraph into a family group chat expressing their rules for visiting them in the hospital: ‘Please do not carry the babies for now.'”

After the birth, she spoke with the children’s mother, who reiterated that she still didn’t want the babies “being touched or carried.”

More recently, the woman received a notification from the family group chat.

“It was a video with this caption, ‘Uncle came to visit the babies!’ I played the video and it showed the mom on the hospital bed with a baby in the bassinet next to her, her brother standing over the bassinet reaching in and touching her head as you hear the mom saying, ‘Isn’t her head soft,’ when the video suddenly disappears! The video and message were unsent,” she wrote.

“I immediately called my sister to tell her,” she added. “We were both angry. We texted our brother saying we saw the video and he never responded while being active in other chats.”

She continued: “My sister and I confronted my brother over the phone today (he was alone) and he just said that her brother was able to touch one of them because he simply asked and ‘the mother allowed him to,’ he said we could’ve gone freshly showered and asked.”

“I’m upset because why does her mom and brother get to touch them but not my brother’s mom or sisters?” she wrote.

Some Reddit users sided with her, with one commenting, “If you’re going to treat half of the family like second class citizens, be prepared for the fall out. Being parents is no excuse.”

However, many others felt the woman was in the wrong.

“You don’t have a right to touch other people’s babies. Even if they allow other people. They don’t owe you an explanation either,” wrote one commenter.

Another added, “Your brother just had twins and you’re more concerned about the exact policing of baby touching rules than you are the well-being of his poor girlfriend WHO JUST HAD TWINS.”

The same user continued, “Regardless of why it’s not really your business. The babies aren’t going to remember who held them for their first few weeks on the planet, but their parents will surely remember which family member’s petty grievances caused them unnecessary stress during that time.”