Mother Is ‘Fuming’ After Her Adopted 3-Year-Old Isn’t Invited to a Relative’s ‘Family Only’ Birthday Party

A woman says she’s outraged after learning that her adopted child wasn’t invited to a relative’s “family only” birthday celebration.

Sharing her story on the “Am I Being Unreasonable?” forum on the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet.com, the woman explained that she and her husband have four biological children and are also the legal guardians of a 3-year-old relative from her side of the family who is “basically an orphan.”

She noted that the child has been living with them for about 18 months and that her husband’s family has already met the little one.

According to her post, one of her husband’s relatives is planning a “big birthday” party — but recently informed her husband that the 3-year-old was not invited because the event was for “family only.”

“How sh—- is that?” she wrote, adding, “This isn’t a small party either. It’s about 250 people.”

“I know people throw words around, but I’m genuinely fuming,” she said.

Commenters on Mumsnet quickly backed the woman, saying her reaction was justified.

“Of course YANBU [you are not being unreasonable]. Who could possibly exclude a 3-year-old like that???” one person wrote.

Another said, “That’s incredibly hurtful. I don’t think I could ever forgive that. And also of course nobody from your household should attend the party. And be very clear as to why.”

Someone else added, “That would be the end of my relationship with them. I couldn’t have involvement with family who excluded one child.”

A few commenters, however, suggested she clarify the situation before making assumptions.

“Are you sure that is actually what was said to your husband, and there isn’t a communication mix up? I would message [the relative] and straight out [ask if] the 3-year-old is invited or not. If they say no, I wouldn’t be going,” one user advised.

Another agreed: “I would talk to whoever is organizing it to make sure what your husband believes is correct. Then, you’ll know what to do.”