Mother Threatens to Skip ‘Cruel’ Daughter’s Wedding After She Refuses to Invite Her Boyfriend of Nearly 5 Years

A bride-to-be might face her big day without her mother’s presence.

The 28-year-old bride turned to Reddit’s Am I the A——? forum to ask if she was wrong for refusing to invite her mother’s boyfriend to her wedding this October.

“My mom called me crying, saying I was being ‘cruel’ and ‘punishing her for being happy,'” the bride recalled of the tense conversation. “She even threatened not to show up to my wedding.”

The bride’s mother, 52, has been divorced from her father for about five years. Despite the split, the couple maintains a positive relationship, describing it as amicable rather than “messy.” The issue isn’t that her mother has moved on, but that no one in the family likes her new boyfriend.

“I’ve never liked this guy,” the bride admitted. “He’s the type of person who talks over everyone, makes inappropriate jokes, and constantly tries to insert himself into family decisions. My dad can’t stand him either, but he’s been civil.”

The mother began dating her boyfriend six months after her divorce, and their relationship has lasted around four and a half years. When her daughter “intentionally did not include” him as a plus-one on her wedding invitation, the mother felt hurt.

“I wanted the wedding to feel like family, and [my mother’s boyfriend] just isn’t that to me,” the bride explained.

The majority of Reddit users sided against the bride, describing her choice as “pretty aggressive” and “a pretty huge slight,” even if her concerns about his behavior were legitimate.

“YTA (You’re The A——),” the top comment read. “I’m sure there’ll be all these, ‘your wedding, your choice’ comments, but your mother has been with this man for nearly five years. This feels needlessly petty.”

Some commenters acknowledged the bride’s right to make her own guest list but emphasized that her mother is equally entitled to make her own choice about attending.

“OP doesn’t have to invite [him], but by the same token, Mom doesn’t have to attend without her partner of half a decade,” one Redditor wrote. “…I totally get not liking someone a family member is dating and not wanting them around, but you can’t make decisions for other adults. [He] is a long-standing partner, and he hasn’t done something truly awful (outside of being an annoying try-hard busybody) or had a falling out with the bridal couple. OP needs to decide whether not having him there is more important than having their mom there.”

Another added: “You’re allowed to do it and it’s your wedding, but this will likely irrevocably alter your relationship with your mom.”