Pregnant Woman Asks If She’s Wrong for Calling Her Husband an Idiot After He Said Her Symptoms ‘Ruin Everything’

A pregnant woman is asking if she was wrong for calling out her husband after he dismissed one of her pregnancy symptoms.

The original poster (OP) shared her story on Reddit’s AITA and explained that she is currently pregnant and has pregnancy rhinitis. The 25-year-old said it “feels like I have a permanent head cold.”

She said her husband, 27, wanted to spend time with her and tried to get her to play video games. OP played the games but wasn’t very enthusiastic. When her husband tried to talk to her, she was very congested.

“He got frustrated with me and he repeated that I’m allowing my pregnancy rhinitis to ruin everything,” said OP. “I called him an idiot and told him he can only criticize my attitude when he goes through pregnancy.”

OP said her husband responded by calling her a “big jerk,” but she wants to know who is actually in the wrong.

In her Reddit comments, one person pointed out that the real problem is that OP’s husband isn’t prioritizing her well-being during pregnancy.

“The rhinitis isn’t the issue here,” they wrote. “It’s that he still wants the spotlight when you’re literally growing a human. Parenting is about to show him real quick what ‘ruining everything’ looks like on no sleep. Hopefully he levels up before the baby arrives, otherwise yeah you’re raising two kids.”

Another commenter said OP’s husband may struggle with parenting if he can’t handle his wife’s illness.

“If your husband can’t even cope with this, he’s going to lose his mind when a colicky baby is ‘ruining everything,'” they wrote.

A third person added that OP wasn’t at fault, but since the conversation included name-calling, both should step back before talking again.

“When an argument resorts to name calling… it’s time to take a step back and come back to the conversation later,” they said. “This is something you’ll need to work out because taking care of the baby while it’s inside is much easier than when it’s out. Your entire world shifts massively.”

“Feeling enthusiasm for your usual activities and way of life before the baby will change significantly after birth, and as a couple, you’ll need to develop a new normal,” they added. “My kids’ father never understood that or wasn’t willing to grow as a person. He stayed very self-centered and selfish. His relationship with his kids now? Not very deep or solid.”