A woman recently turned to Reddit for advice after deciding to take her teenage daughter out for a special meal while the rest of the family stayed home.
The 43-year-old mom explains in her post that she and her 16-year-old daughter share a love for authentic Asian food. “My daughter (16f) and I (43f) love eating at authentic Asian restaurants,” she writes, setting the scene for what began as a simple evening outing.
Her 12-year-old son was at a Korean BBQ about 40 minutes from their home for a party with another family. On the way, she suggested to her husband of 25 years that he and their other two children could eat whatever they wanted at home, while she and her daughter went out for dinner at the Korean BBQ.
Her husband, however, disagreed. “He said no, we should all go as a family,” she recalls, even though she reminded him that he and the other kids weren’t fans of Korean BBQ and it would be cheaper to eat separately.
Once they arrived at the restaurant, tensions escalated. She writes, “When we get to the restaurant and he sees the menu he complains he doesn’t know what to order and complains about the price.”
Her other children quickly echoed his disinterest. The mom suggested they grab food elsewhere in the plaza while she and her daughter stayed, but her husband refused.
They waited 20 minutes for a table as his complaints continued. “He even told me, ‘you better not order anything fancy,’ ” she says, explaining that her patience eventually ran out.
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She decided to leave the restaurant, and her family followed her to the van. “I said I was taking everyone home and my daughter and I would go on our own to a local Korean BBQ,” she writes, making it clear she wasn’t backing down.
The plan went smoothly for everyone except her husband. “We did exactly that. Everyone else had McDonald’s and played Roblox,” she explains, adding that she and her daughter enjoyed their Korean meal while the other kids had fast food at home.
When they returned, her husband was furious and accused her of being inconsiderate. “I get home and he is fuming saying that I owe everyone an apology,” she writes, but she stood her ground.
The mom felt no guilt over her decision. “I refused. I said I had zero remorse. It seemed like everyone was happy but him and went to bed,” she recalls, noting that she slept perfectly fine while her husband remained upset.
In the end, she turned to Reddit to ask, “So, AITA for taking my daughter out for a dinner and leaving everyone else to do their own thing?” She sought opinions on whether she had crossed a line.
Commenters were largely supportive. One pointed out, “You told him what your plan was, and he and you both knew he and the other kids didn’t like Korean BBQ. There is nothing wrong with doing things separately occasionally.”
Another summarized the situation: “Your daughter got a great meal, your kids got Roblox and nuggets, you got peace… the only unhappy customer here is your husband!” Many agreed that compromise and separate activities within families are normal, and that one meal apart isn’t the end of the world.
For now, the husband still feels wronged, but his wife isn’t apologizing.
