Family life can get especially painful when comments about weight and health become a regular part of the conversation.
One teenager recently turned to Reddit to share how her relatives, especially her older brother, constantly called her “fat” — even though her doctors say she’s a healthy weight. The same brother, she said, was allowed to eat whatever he wanted with zero judgment. That double standard went on for years, until a health scare turned the situation upside down and left her feeling like “karma” had stepped in.
The 17-year-old explained that ever since she hit puberty, her family has criticized her body.
“For the longest while ever since I started puberty my family would not stop calling me fat,” she wrote. “I’m 140 pounds and doctors say that’s normal weight, but to my family it’s considered fat.”
According to her post, her 21-year-old brother, J, is the worst offender.
She said he constantly warned her that she’d “die from heart disease” or “get diabetes” because she supposedly ate too much — even though, in her view, he eats far more and barely moves.
Despite that, her family insisted that “he’s a growing boy, so he must eat,” and treated his appetite as normal and hers as a problem.
Over time, that double standard seeped into everyday life.
On birthdays, she said J got cake while she went without. When she cooked dinner, her mom would ask her to make extra so J could eat as much as he liked. If food went missing in the house, everyone automatically blamed her.
“A whole liter of juice? Finished by me even if I took only one cup. Snacks? I finished them. Leftover dinner? Me,” she wrote. “Everything is always finished by me no matter how much I try to prove that I didn’t do it.”
Eventually, she stopped defending herself.
“Arguing with people who were dead set on believing you ate everything didn’t get anywhere,” she explained.
Then the story took a sharp turn.
J started feeling unwell and went to the doctor, telling them he felt “sluggish and dehydrated.” After blood work, he was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes.
“I watched as my mom and J stared at the lab results in utter shock and disbelief. J was so dumbfounded that I couldn’t help but laugh,” she admitted.
Her reaction did not go over well.
She said her mom immediately insisted she get tested too — assuming that if J had diabetes, she must have it as well. When her results came back normal, she laughed again.
“My mom grabbed me and had me get a blood test as well because apparently if J had it so did I, but when the lab showed that I was healthy, I laughed even harder this time,” she wrote.
After that, things escalated quickly.
According to the post, her mother told the extended family that the teen “laughed at my unfortunate brother instead of feeling sorry for him,” and relatives began attacking her for being “cruel.”
Feeling ganged up on, the teen turned to Reddit to ask if she was wrong for laughing or if, given the years of fat-shaming and hypocrisy, her reaction was understandable.
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In an update, she clarified that her laughter didn’t mean she was happy about her brother’s diagnosis or that she didn’t care.
She stressed that she knows “diabetes is a serious condition” and said that since the diagnosis, she has actually been helping J manage it.
She explained that she’s been preparing his meals to make sure “he is on the right track,” giving him foods that won’t spike his blood sugar or worsen his condition.
“Just because I laughed at him and he has a history of being my biggest hater, doesn’t mean that I don’t love my brother, he is still my family at the end of the day,” she wrote.
The post drew a wide range of reactions.
Some commenters felt that J’s diagnosis was a harsh lesson after years of bullying his sister about her weight and health. Others argued that laughing at someone’s serious medical condition crosses a line, no matter how unfairly they’ve treated you.
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In the end, her story struck a nerve because it highlighted a painful mix of body-shaming, favoritism, and the complicated ways families respond when “karma” seems to come around.