Wife Feels Husband Prioritizes Everything but Her, Says ‘We Got the Rest of Our Lives Together, What’s the Rush’

A woman is feeling increasingly neglected after realizing her husband seems to prioritize everything — except her.

Posting on the U.K.-based forum Mumsnet, the wife shared that she and her husband have been together for five years, married for three, and are parents to a 2-year-old daughter.

Describing their personalities, she said, “He’s very laid back and chilled, and I’m more neurotic, I think.” The couple spends a lot of time together, she explained, adding that they’ve “never spent a night apart,” often joking that they’d “find this very hard.”

Still, she noted that their weekday routine leaves little room for connection. “We both work [during] the week, and he has hobbies nearly every day after work. He usually comes home about 9, we eat and go to bed.”

When weekends come around, they focus on family time with their daughter. But after their child’s bedtime, her husband often retreats to his gaming setup until midnight.

When she’s brought up concerns about not spending enough time together, her husband tends to brush it off, telling her, “We’re always together” and “We’ve got the rest of our lives together, what’s the rush?”

The woman said they had previously discussed how much time he spent on his hobbies, and he agreed to cut back to twice a week — but that quickly crept back up to five nights again. “I feel like I can’t tell him to spend more time with me,” she wrote. “I feel like I’m always asking for time or communication from him. I don’t think there’s anyone else, but I feel like he just doesn’t even think of me.”

In the comments section of her post — which she titled “Is this just married life?” — many fellow Mumsnet users empathized with her frustration.

“He’s living the life of a single man while you parent. I wouldn’t see any point to this relationship,” one commenter said. Another added, “Tell him he is a dad and partner now, not a child.”

One user even offered hope, sharing that they’d been in a similar situation before things improved: “I had one like this until I made it clear it wasn’t reasonable. We’ve been fine since.”