Wife Says Her Husband Is Mad That She Wants to Go on Another Girls’ Trip Despite Having at Least 4 Vacations Booked

A travel-enthusiast wife is concerned that her husband is upset over her numerous upcoming trips.

The woman shared her dilemma on the U.K. community forum Mumsnet, explaining that tensions rose after she mentioned planning another girls’ getaway.

“He isn’t happy about it and is saying I’m taking the piss as I already have 2 holidays with other girls booked and another holiday is with our daughter,” she wrote, noting that he “won’t give any other reason” for his frustration. She also pointed out that they “do have holidays booked together as a couple.”

She added, “He got defensive and said, ‘You do what you want to do,’ and also said, ‘I have my money, you have yours.’ ”

“Is this controlling and gaslighting?” she asked the forum.

Responses were mixed. Some users labeled the husband’s reaction as a “tantrum,” while others sympathized with his perspective.

“You already have 2 holidays booked with friends? Then yes, that’s a lot—not just money but also precious annual leave, time you could spend together. One trip a year is fine, but 3???” one commenter wrote.

Another user shared a personal experience: “To be fair, I love to travel and my partner doesn’t, so girls’ holidays are a godsend, but 4 seems quite a lot in one year.”

When asked about the family’s finances and children, the wife clarified, “Finances are good, children are older so can look after themselves.”

“She can go if she likes but he hasn’t anyone to go with,” she added, noting that he doesn’t have many friends. “I love to travel and have holidays booked with him too! When I ask about us booking another holiday [together] he turns it down.”

Some Mumsnet users encouraged her to find out the real reason behind her husband’s objection.

“Understanding what his objection really is will help sort this out. He doesn’t get to block what you do because he doesn’t have friends,” one person advised.