Woman Admits Man’s Behavior After Their ‘Great’ First Date Has Left Her ‘Spiraling’

A woman says she’s feeling unsettled and hurt after hearing nothing from a man she believed she’d connected with on a promising first date.

Sharing her story on the community forum Mumsnet, the 37-year-old explained that she had been single for three years before meeting a man she described as “really genuine.” According to her post, the date went well, and the pair even talked about meeting again before parting ways.

They last exchanged messages on Monday. When Tuesday and Wednesday passed without any communication, the woman began to worry that she’d been “ghosted.”

“I was waiting for him to set up the next date,” she wrote, explaining that she’s not someone who usually initiates contact.

Her anxiety grew when she noticed changes on WhatsApp. “I look at WhatsApp and see his pic and status are gone. Instantly thought I’m blocked,” she said.

Feeling confused and upset, she eventually sent him a message explaining how his silence had made her feel, while also wishing him well. The message appeared to go through, which only added to her uncertainty.

“So I wonder if he had only deleted my number?” she wrote. “Anyway, he’s not responded and I’m spiraling.”

Turning to the forum for guidance, she asked other users whether she should try calling him or simply leave things as they are.

Most replies encouraged her not to reach out again. Some commenters suggested he could simply be busy, but many felt the lack of response likely signaled disinterest rather than a misunderstanding.

One person cautioned that sending an emotional message so early may have backfired, noting that after just one date, there can be many reasons for limited communication. They suggested a lighter follow-up might have been more effective.

Others were more direct, saying that modern dating often involves sudden silence and that it’s best not to chase someone who isn’t making an effort. Several advised her to let it go, arguing that persistent contact can come across as needy and may only make the situation feel worse.

A number of commenters reframed the situation more positively, suggesting she may have avoided future frustration. Poor communication early on, they said, can be a sign of deeper issues down the line.

While the responses varied in tone, the overall message was clear: if someone is interested, they’ll usually make it known — and if not, it’s often healthier to accept the silence and move forward.