Woman Asks If She Should Stop Dating Man Who Hasn’t Asked Her a ‘Single Thing’ About Herself in 4 Dates

A woman is considering ending things with a man she’s been dating after noticing his apparent lack of interest in her life.

In a post on Mumsnet, she explained that she’s been on four “lovely” dates with a man who never asks her questions about herself. She described it as “weird” that he hasn’t shown genuine curiosity about her life.

Having observed his lack of engagement, the woman shared that she often volunteers details about herself unprompted.

“He texts daily when we can’t see each other, but sometimes he won’t message all day and only much later in the evening,” she noted, shedding light on his communication habits.

The woman admitted she was seeking advice on how to handle the situation.

“Am I overthinking it? Or should I just nip it in the bud and tell him I think the reason is that he doesn’t seem really interested?” she asked.

She added, “The dates go really well, and when I get home, I always think awwww, how lovely it was. Should I give it a bit longer?”

In a follow-up comment, she revealed that the man had told her he’s looking for a “long-term, serious relationship” after being single for two years. While they share similar interests, he hasn’t directly expressed his feelings toward her.

Responses to her post were mixed. Some said the man’s lack of curiosity would be a dealbreaker, while others suggested giving it more time before deciding.

“One user wrote, ‘The not asking you any questions about yourself thing is just plain odd and indicates he just sees you as a FWB [friends with benefits] or placeholder until someone he really likes comes along. Get rid.’”

Another commented, “It’s actually one of the biggest red flags in the world (and all too common): no interest in you, your life experiences, your career, your own interests beyond the shared ones; no trying to find out what is special and distinct about you. Please walk away!”

A third added, “Some men are content to see a woman they’re not really that bothered about, for any length of time — for sex, female company, female attention, something to do. Just because you’re not having sex yet doesn’t mean he’s into you. Ditch.”

One responder offered a practical approach to encourage deeper conversation:

“It really bothers me if someone isn’t curious, and I’ve found that if I need to prompt potential dates, if there is anything they want to know about me, I get a very generic question back like what’s your favorite cheese. Either the art of conversation and flirting has taken a substantial nosedive since I was last sociable, or age and sobriety have wised me up! I’d give them an opportunity and ask some more probing questions, and ask directly what they’d like to know about you.”