A woman recently shared a troubling discovery on Reddit: she caught her fiancé writing vows that seemed to reference his ex-girlfriend rather than her.
The 31-year-old explained that she and her 34-year-old fiancé are set to get married in about two months. One evening, while they were both working on their vows, she “accidentally saw part of what he was writing when he left his notebook open.”
“It said: ‘I knew I loved you the moment you stepped into that coffee shop wearing that yellow dress,'” she recalled. “Here’s the thing: I have NEVER worn a yellow dress.”
She added that she “knows for a fact” that his ex-girlfriend often wore a dress in that bright hue, based on stories he had previously shared.
When she confronted him, he became defensive. “He said I was ‘reading too much into it’ and that ‘it doesn’t matter who the memory was about, it’s about the feeling,'” she wrote.
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Despite his reassurances, the woman says she feels “sick” and uncertain about what to do next.
“Am I about to stand up at my wedding and listen to vows he basically recycled from his last relationship?” she asked, turning to Reddit for advice.
The responses were swift and overwhelmingly blunt, with many urging her to reconsider the wedding while there’s still time.
“‘It doesn’t matter who the memory is about, it’s about the feeling’ is INSANE. It most definitely matters,” one user replied. “Honestly, I wouldn’t go through with this. Sounds like he wishes he was marrying his ex, so save yourself some pain and money and call it off.”
Another warned, “You need to cancel this wedding now. Don’t waste your life with someone who is always thinking of someone else.”
A third added, “This is about more than just words on a page. It’s about respect, authenticity, and whether your fiancé is truly present in your relationship and ready to marry you. Do not get married until you feel confident that this has been resolved and that your vows will be a genuine celebration of your relationship. It is far better to postpone a wedding than to go into a marriage with this level of distrust and hurt.”
