Woman Cancels Rare Visit Home After Father Refuses to Pick Her Up, Calling Her a ‘Drama Queen’

A woman turned to Reddit for advice after a disappointing encounter with her father made her cancel a long-awaited trip home.

She explained that she and her partner had built a life abroad, yet her parents had never once visited despite several invitations. When she returned to Germany for a short stay, she hoped to reconnect. “I thought it would be nice to visit them — we haven’t seen each other in almost a year,” she wrote, noting that she planned to travel by train because she didn’t have a car.

The journey required multiple transfers, and the last station before her parents’ town was about 30 kilometers away. She asked her father to pick her up, but he was reluctant. “He hesitated and said it was ‘too much of a detour’ and that he ‘didn’t know the area well,’ ” she said. The excuse struck her as insincere — her father often drove long distances across the region to photograph trains, his favorite hobby. “He regularly drives hundreds of kilometers for that, but couldn’t make this small trip for me.”

Instead, he suggested an alternative connection that would make her travel even less convenient. “It was basically the same route, just earlier, with a longer wait between trains,” she explained.

When she questioned his refusal, the conversation quickly escalated. “He called me a ‘drama queen’ and accused me of ‘playing the victim,’ ” she recalled, adding that his words sounded even more ridiculous in German — he said she was acting like a “sulky sausage.”

Frustrated, she decided to call off the visit altogether. “I told them I wouldn’t come. It wasn’t about the distance; it was about the attitude,” she said. Her mother sent several emotional messages, urging her to reconsider and reminding her that parents make mistakes. But the woman stood by her choice. “This isn’t about perfection,” she said. “It’s about respect and basic willingness.”

Afterward, some relatives told her she was overreacting and being “too sensitive.” But many Reddit commenters supported her stance. One wrote, “Based on what you said about your dad and his driving habits, I’d say your father is a huge d—. If your mom really wants to see you, maybe she can meet you halfway or pick you up herself. Definitely NTA.”

Another commenter added, “Calling you overly sensitive is projection. It’s not too much to ask your family for a little help to make a reunion possible. Good on you for matching your father’s energy — doing what serves you best.”