A woman was shocked by her friend’s behavior at her mom’s funeral.
The woman, 30, shared on Reddit’s AITAH (Am I the A——) forum that her friend Susan’s mom had passed away, and she was invited to the funeral. However, Susan’s actions at the service made the woman question their friendship.
The OP (original poster) said she “didn’t really know” Susan’s mom but went to the funeral to support her friend. She explained that Susan “says she considers me like family — and I do believe she feels that way — but she only contacts me when she wants help with her small business.”
When the OP arrived at the funeral, she noticed that the program was “filled with pictures of Susan’s small business,” and there was even an advertisement for the business by the casket.
To make things worse, Susan recited a slam poem about her mom but then spent most of her speech talking about herself and her business. The OP noted that Susan’s grieving sister and brother gave proper speeches about their late mom.
“I left feeling disgusted and never wanting to talk to her again. If she had behaved badly in another situation, I might have excused it as grief — but turning the funeral into a 2-hour ad for her company seemed so narcissistic and sociopathic,” the OP wrote.
After the funeral, the OP didn’t answer Susan’s phone call and wondered if she was wrong for no longer wanting to be friends, even though Susan is grieving her mom.
People commenting on the post were also shocked by Susan’s behavior. One wrote that while grief can affect people, this didn’t seem like “a spontaneous emotional slip.” They said Susan made “a conscious decision to make the day about herself.”
Another commenter told the OP she wasn’t in the wrong, saying, “To be fair, apparently she does treat you like family. Meaning that your only use is to help her with her business, which is how she sees her family.”
A third person accused Susan of turning her mom’s funeral “into a TED talk” about her business. “You’re not wrong for stepping back,” they wrote.
