Woman Doesn’t Want to Invite Her Future Sister-in-Law to Her Wedding for This Reason

A woman is wondering if she would be in the wrong for not inviting her future sister-in-law to her wedding following an escalating dispute over the venue.

In a post shared on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum, the 25-year-old explained that wedding planning has been far more stressful than expected — largely due to tensions with her fiancé’s sister.

She said she and her fiancé got engaged in June and quickly began planning a destination wedding. The location held deep emotional meaning for them.

They chose Cyprus because her fiancé’s father had passed away there unexpectedly during a holiday the year before. The bride-to-be said the setting would help her fiancé feel closer to his father on their wedding day.

Problems began when her fiancé’s 28-year-old sister said she also wanted to get married in Cyprus for the same reason and claimed there was one specific venue the couple was “not allowed” to book.

The woman added that her future sister-in-law is not engaged, has been in a relationship for about five years, and, to her knowledge, has no immediate plans to get married.

The couple eventually narrowed their options down to three venues. One was eliminated due to a minimum guest requirement, which didn’t suit their intimate wedding of around 20 people. Another was unavailable on their preferred dates, and after further research, they discovered several red flags that made them uncomfortable moving forward. That left only one venue — the same one the groom’s sister had told them not to choose.

After careful consideration, the couple decided to book it anyway, believing it was the best fit for their vision, guest count, and budget.

The bride-to-be said they also felt that even if her future sister-in-law eventually married at the same location, it wouldn’t diminish either celebration, as their weddings would still be different.

According to the post, the decision did not go over well. The groom’s sister reportedly reacted angrily, saying she would not attend the wedding and accusing the couple of choosing a venue over their relationship with her.

The bride-to-be said they tried to explain that they had attempted to accommodate her wishes but simply had no other viable options. Despite this, the sister-in-law insisted the couple had “ruined” her future wedding.

Now, as the bride prepares to send out save-the-dates, she’s unsure whether to include her future sister-in-law. She shared that the sister has not spoken to them since the argument, skipped their engagement celebration, and either ignored them or left family gatherings when they arrived.

She worries that inviting her could lead to drama or attempts to redirect attention on the wedding day. At the same time, she’s concerned that leaving her off the guest list could create a lasting family rift.

Reddit users were divided in their responses. Some questioned why the couple didn’t continue searching for another venue or suggested they invite the sister-in-law regardless.

One commenter emphasized that the wedding belongs to the couple, noting that using the venue doesn’t prevent anyone else from doing the same in the future. They added that excluding her could permanently damage family relationships and urged the bride to consider that outcome carefully.

Others took a more critical view, arguing that both sides handled the situation poorly. While they agreed the sister-in-law shouldn’t have tried to reserve a venue for a hypothetical wedding, they also felt the conflict had escalated unnecessarily.

Another commenter advised sending the save-the-date and letting the sister-in-law decide whether or not to attend, suggesting that leaving the choice in her hands could help avoid further conflict.