Woman Dumps Man Who Repeatedly Canceled Plans Last Minute. Now She’s Being Called ‘Too Harsh’

A 22-year-old woman is second-guessing her decision to end a casual relationship after the guy she was seeing repeatedly bailed on her plans at the last minute.

In a Reddit post, she explained that things started off simple and fun. They would see each other a couple of times a week, grab dinner, watch movies and go for walks. “It wasn’t anything super serious, but it was consistent and enjoyable,” she wrote.

Over time, though, the pattern changed. He began canceling more and more — often just an hour before they were supposed to meet. Sometimes he said he was “tired.” Other times, “something came up” or a friend suddenly needed him. At first, she tried to shrug it off. “People have lives, bad days, unexpected things,” she explained.

But what began as an occasional inconvenience soon turned into a regular occurrence.

She described several days where she had already gotten dressed, rearranged her schedule or turned down other plans, only for him to pull out with minimal explanation. Even then, she kept trying to be understanding and give him the benefit of the doubt.

Eventually, after yet another last-minute cancellation with no real context, she reached her breaking point. She told him she didn’t want to continue seeing him because it felt like he no longer respected her time.

He didn’t respond kindly. According to her post, he accused her of being “too harsh” and “giving up too easily.” A couple of her friends also wondered if she should’ve given him another chance or tried to communicate more clearly. But she said she did communicate — repeatedly — and his behavior never changed.

Now she’s left wondering if she overreacted or if she’s simply holding a reasonable boundary.

“I don’t expect perfection,” she wrote. “But I do expect basic respect and consistency.”

Since sharing her story, hundreds of Reddit users have weighed in — and most of them strongly supported her decision.

“Good for you,” one commenter wrote. “You are clearly not a priority to him. Don’t wait around for someone who disrespects your time. There are better guys out there.”

Another person agreed, adding: “Canceling once is understandable but multiple cancellations at [the] last minute is disrespectful of my time and it’s already showing me who you are, unreliable. And I’m just not into that. Byeeee.”

Someone else summed it up this way: “You need to move on from him. After the initial excitement of meeting someone new it’s worn off for him. Now that you’ve told him that it’s not working his interest has picked up again. You deserve to have someone interested in you [in] the most considerate way which is making time for you.”