Woman ‘Felt Pressured’ into Paying for First Date. Now, Feeling ‘Humiliated,’ She Wants the Guy to Pay Her Back

A first date left one young woman feeling frustrated and embarrassed.

The 19-year-old shared her story on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum, admitting she felt “humiliated” after going out with a 20-year-old man who seemed to disappear when it came time to pay.

“He was very insistent that we meet at a food market, so I assumed we were going to sit down for an actual meal and showed up slightly hungry,” she wrote about the man she met while on a work trip.

“He said he wasn’t really hungry and thought it would be better if we just grabbed something quick and sat down,” she recalled. “I didn’t want to be difficult, and I figured maybe he wanted to treat me but didn’t want to spend too much, so I went along with it.”

The woman ordered just a bagel, while her date chose a frappe.

“When it came time to pay, he suddenly ‘got a phone call.’ The call dragged on, and I didn’t think it would be appropriate to keep the cashier waiting, so I went to pay for myself,” she explained. “The cashier ended up combining our orders, and I felt pressured into paying for both of us.”

She even offered him half of her bagel, which he ate.

“This is after he made a big point about not being hungry,” she said. “I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt, thinking maybe it was a misunderstanding. I even mentioned how good some of the food around us looked and suggested we could try it, but he just said he’d rather not.”

She added that the date and their conversations “were not good.”

“I’ve already decided I won’t be seeing him again, but here’s the part that really bothers me: I ended up paying for both of us, he took half of my food even though he ‘wasn’t hungry,’ and he didn’t even offer to cover something else later,” she emphasized.

She continued, “I’m not exactly swimming in cash right now — and, for context, he comes from a wealthy family — so I feel a little humiliated.”

Now, she’s debating whether to ask him to pay her back “at least for the frappe, which he didn’t even offer to share with me.”

Reddit users quickly weighed in on the story.

“Let this go,” one reader suggested, while another advised, “Cut your losses and move on — if you don’t like this person, why continue to interact with him?”

Others sided with the woman.

“The guy is an a——,” one bluntly commented. “I would’ve saved the receipt and then emailed it to him requesting a payment via Zelle or Venmo. Then block his number. He’s a loser.”