A woman turned to Reddit for advice after learning she was the only family member left out of a Broadway show planned by her sister. The situation began when her older sister — who recently started dating “a guy who’s pretty well-off” — decided to treat the family to a holiday outing in the city.
According to the woman’s post, her sister “asked my mom who in the family would be interested in going to the city because she wanted to treat everyone to a Broadway show and dinner.”
But things took an unexpected and frustrating turn. Her mom told her sister that she “wouldn’t be interested,” which the woman called “insane because of course I would!”
By the time she discovered what happened, the plans were already finalized, and her sister had “bought tickets for everyone except me.” Although her mom admitted she felt guilty, she insisted it was “too late to fix.”
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The situation became even more uncomfortable when her mom told her she “shouldn’t even come to the city later for dinner with them because my sister would feel ‘too bad’ seeing me there after not inviting me.”
The reasoning left her shocked and upset. “Why should I stay home and cater my day around her guilt when I’m the one who actually got left out?” she asked Reddit, struggling to understand why her feelings were being dismissed.
Instead of sitting at home, she decided to make her own plans. “So now I’m thinking of just going to the city on my own—walk around, maybe grab something to eat, just enjoy the day instead of sulking at home,” she wrote.
Her mom still wasn’t supportive. “My mom says that would make my sister feel terrible,” she explained, questioning why her sister’s emotions were continuing to take priority over her own.
Caught between trying to avoid further conflict and wanting to salvage her day, she asked the Reddit community, “AITA for still going to the city even though my sister will feel bad, even though she’s the one who didn’t invite me?” Many users empathized with her situation.
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One commenter encouraged direct communication: “Please speak directly to your sister. Let her know you would have loved to join them and can’t wait to meet them for dinner. Mom needs to stay out of it.”
Another commenter took a more understanding tone toward the mother, while still supporting the woman’s hurt feelings. “I don’t know about your mom being a liar and I’m not sure about jumping straight to NC,” they wrote. “Seems to me like your mom is embarrassed over a mistake and trying to save face, nothing more. Have some grace, call your sister and explain and go enjoy dinner.”
