A woman says she’s been urged to step back from a man she’s only seen twice after he asked her for money.
In a post on the community forum Mumsnet, she explained that the man requested about $60 to fix his boiler because he was short on funds.
“After a second date? Is there ever a genuine reason for a man to ask to borrow money from you when you’ve only met twice?” she wrote.
In a follow-up comment, the woman added that he claimed he couldn’t ask his parents because they were at a hospital appointment. She also questioned the situation because, in many rental arrangements, tenants typically aren’t responsible for paying for certain repairs themselves.
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What commenters told her
Replies quickly piled up warning her not to continue dating him—or lend him any money.
“I’d almost feel embarrassed for him, who’d ask a second date to borrow money,” one person wrote. “That’s what credit cards and loans are for, I hope it’s your last date with him.”
“100% no,” another commenter said. “If he can’t pay for his boiler to be fixed then it suggests he either is very short of funds or can’t manage his finances. Failing that, he is a scammer and this is just the start of many such requests.”
A third person compared it to their own dating experience, saying that even after being made redundant, the person they were seeing still insisted on paying. They added that asking to borrow money so early felt like a major warning sign.
Her decision
In a later response, the woman said she’d decided not to see him again.
“Thanks guys, for helping me see sense!” she wrote. “He tried canceling the next date as apparently he had his daughter, but I had a gut feeling he was lying, so I kicked him to the curb, £40 [$60] was a cheap price to pay to see him for what he was.”
She also alleged that his behavior had been intense early on. “The love bombing was out of this world,” she added, claiming she had paid on their dates because he was short on money midway through the month.
