Woman ‘Livid’ Over Mother-in-Law’s Late Night Visits to Check on Her Husband’s Blood Sugar

A woman says her mother-in-law keeps showing up in the middle of the night because she worries about her husband, who has type 1 diabetes.

In a post on Reddit, she explains that she and her husband have been married for two years.

“He has type 1 diabetes and was diagnosed at 5. He was very sick before the diagnosis, and according to his mom, she thought he was going to die,” she writes. “She gets alerts on her phone about his blood sugar… I do not. The only reason he lets her see them is because she throws a fit if he removes her, and he doesn’t want to deal with it.”

The mother-in-law lives next door and, the woman says, “because of past situations, she is not allowed to come to our house in the middle of the night—but that has not stopped her.”

“I have told her that I can hear his phone alerts and that if his blood sugar gets too low, I will make sure he’s safe,” she writes. “But that does not stop her. She calls constantly in the middle of the night. If he doesn’t answer, she blows up my phone.”

She adds: “My husband always puts his phone on silent, so I end up being the one woken up and trying to calm her down. Because of that, I started doing the same thing. Well, when we didn’t answer last night, she just came over again.”

The woman says she woke up and answered the door to find her mother-in-law “just standing there like, ‘Where’s my son?'”

“This makes us both so angry. But he does nothing about it,” she writes. “One time when she was out of town and we didn’t answer, she called her friend and had her husband come over, whom I’ve never met. He knocked on the door in the middle of the night because she, and I quote, was ‘worried he had died.'”

She explains that her mother-in-law’s behavior has caused tension in their marriage. “My husband went to counseling one time, said about two words, and didn’t come back. I did my own therapy, which helped me detach from the situation, and she backed off for a while. But things are starting to escalate again.”

Now, the woman writes, she doesn’t know what to do.

From her post: “She deliberately makes his life hell until he gives in. It’s so unattractive to me when I see him in this light. It’s like being married to a child with zero spine and zero identity.”

Other Reddit users are telling her not to engage with her mother-in-law. One commenter wrote, “Why are you running interference for him by answering the door? Stop responding in any way.”

Another added, “He’s married to you on paper, but he’s in a relationship with his mom.”