Woman Overhears Boyfriend of 8 Years Making Shocking Confession About Their Relationship to His Friend

A woman shared that she felt “crushed” after overhearing her longtime boyfriend talking about their relationship with a friend.

In a Reddit post, she explained that she and her partner have been together for eight years. He has three children from a previous marriage, and she has a son from a past relationship, all over the age of 13. She describes their life as “nice” and “upper middle class.”

Recently, while checking her Ring camera at the front door, she overheard her partner discussing their relationship over the phone.

“I wouldn’t normally listen to his convos but this had me on alert,” she wrote.

She first heard him sharing information about her son that she had asked him to keep private. Then, when his friend started asking a series of questions about their relationship, she was stunned by his responses.

“One question was if he was going to marry me,” she wrote. “He said he didn’t plan on it and then proceeded to imply that I know too much info about his inheritance, essentially making me sound like I’m with him for money.”

“I was very hurt. I have never been married, and we have had eight solid years together where we have had conversations about our future,” she continued. “This included marriage, and he encouraged it a lot. I’m having a hard time getting past it for some reason.”

She described his words as “like a weapon” that “slit through [her] heart.”

In an effort to help him understand her feelings of betrayal, the woman confronted her boyfriend using a hypothetical scenario—but it backfired.

“I asked, ‘If I were to break your trust and cheat on you, how would that feel?’” she recalled. “I know it’s not the same, but it’s the only parallel that keeps coming to my mind.”

Now, her boyfriend is accusing her of “wanting to cheat,” and tensions have lingered for the past month. She turned to Reddit for advice.

Reddit users encouraged her to see the situation as a sign that the relationship might no longer be working.

“Have y’all talked about marriage over the years? That would be a dealbreaker for me. Unless he explicitly stated he never wanted to get married again, I’d feel like I had wasted 8 years of my life with him,” one commenter wrote. “Not only that, but now you know you can’t trust him with private information about your kid. Is that how you want to spend the rest of your life?”

Another user questioned why she used hypotheticals instead of speaking directly about her feelings.

“Why ask about hypothetical scenarios? Be honest and to the point. You heard the convo, he shared private info about your kid and he said you guys were never getting married, wtf is up with that? No reason whatsoever to create any hypotheticals. Confront him, have the talk, make your choices accordingly.”