A woman is facing a tough call about whether to attend her best friend’s wedding after discovering that her long-term boyfriend didn’t make the guest list.
In a Reddit post, she explained that she and her best friend have been close for seven years. The friend is getting married in January, and while the poster was excited at first, that changed when she realized her boyfriend of three years was not included in the invitation — despite the fact that he and the bride get along very well.
“They did the RSVPs through a website, and all plus-ones come up with the person’s name,” she wrote. “All our other friends that she’s invited, their boyfriends are included in their invite, living together or not. I mentioned him being my plus one before they even made the guest list, and she just kinda awkwardly laughed. It definitely made me uncomfortable.”
She added that her relationship is actually the longest-running one in their friend group. “He and I have been together the longest out of everyone, and like I said, they get along very well and view each other as ‘siblings,’ ” she said.
The woman also noted that some couples who have been together for less than a year received joint invitations, while her boyfriend was left out entirely. “Obviously it’s her wedding and what she says goes, but this is my boyfriend of three years and the man I’m going to spend the rest of my life with,” she wrote.
“I don’t feel comfortable being somewhere he’s not welcome,” she continued. “So would I be in the wrong for not going? Or am I overreacting/jumping the gun?”
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Since sharing her story, hundreds of commenters have weighed in. Many agreed that something about the situation doesn’t add up — and that she should talk to her friend directly.
“I don’t understand how she can be your best friend but you can’t just ask her about this and get an answer. Seems odd,” one person wrote.
“Did you ask her? It seems like it could be a glitch in entering the data on the website. If he is deliberately excluded, no, YWNBTA. But you should have a conversation,” another advised.
Others felt the lack of invitation was a clear sign of where she stands in the friendship.
“NTA. If you aren’t even a bridesmaid, then she already told you where you stand. You can send a gift and go enjoy your weekend instead of pretending to be thrilled for her,” a third commenter said.
