A 48-year-old woman recently shared on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum that she excluded her 50-year-old best friend from a dinner gathering because she didn’t want her to bring her 18-month-old grandchild.
“She absolutely loves her grandson, as she should,” the younger friend explained. “She is the only one in our friend group with a grandchild. The problem is, she feels she needs to have him every free moment she has.”
“She tries to include him in all our outings and bring him everywhere,” she continued, noting that the toddler “doesn’t have the best parents,” which is why the grandmother enjoys looking after him so often.
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The woman recounted how she invited a group of friends over for dinner, including the grandmother.
“She replied, ‘I have the baby overnight.’ I ignored her comment, and everyone else confirmed they could come,” she recalled.
“She then texted me asking if we could hold it at her place,” she added. “I told her it would be a huge hassle to transport all the food there.”
She admitted her house “is DEFINITELY not baby proof.”
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Unsure if she was in the wrong for leaving out her grandchild-loving friend, she asked, “Am I the A—— for excluding my friend?”
“Not the a——,” one Reddit user responded. “If you think she’d listen, you could tell her that you are all done raising children, and if she is going to be doing so she needs to understand that she will be invited to fewer things.”
